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Notes about endometriosis

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In late March 2012, I went to attend talks on endometriosis.

I made a note of A3 size. Here, I share some important things.

You may find them useful.

Of course the best thing to do is to consult doctor.

My note is useful to me so that I can quickly remember when I forget as time goes by.

What is endometriosis?

Endometriosis lesions can occur on organs throughout the pelvic area.

Endometriosis occurs in ~ 1 in 10 (some say up to 20-30%) women of child-bearing age; common in women in their 30s.

Endometriosis lesions cause chronic inflammation and pain;

it produces toxic substance;

attracts killer cells (that kill eggs and sperms).

Endometriosis depends on estrogen.

Endometriosis is associated with infertility.

Endometriosis is not cancer.


The causes are not fully understood yet.

Risk factors

1. higher risk if your mother / sister suffers from endometriosis.

Mom and Sis do not have any severe menstrual pain, only me.

2. prolonged / shorted cycle of the average 28 days.

What are symptoms of endometriosis?

  1. severe menstrual pain: that affects work and require medical leave.
  2. heavy periods
  3. premenstrual pain
  4. painful sex
  5. diffuse / chronic pelvic pain
  6. chronic fatigue
  7. heavy / irregular bleeding
  8. bowel-associated / bladder-associated symptoms during menstruation, e.g. bleeding from bowel
  9. constipation
  10. diarrhea
  11. colic (Severe, often fluctuating pain in the abdomen caused by intestinal gas or obstruction in the intestines and suffered esp. by babies)
  12. no symptoms (they only know after visiting a fertility specialist)

Note: The severity of endometriosis does not always correlate to the severity of symptoms.

What are possible treatments for endometriosis?

  1. only pregnancy can check mate endometriosis, but endometriosis reduces the chance of pregnancy. Only 1 winner.
  2. lifestyle change. exercise can decrease estrogen.
  3. drugs to control pain.
  4. drugs to control endometriosis growth.

Combined oral contraceptive pill, progesterone, GnRH analogues, Mirena coil.

Con:$, side effects, pregnancy put on hold.

  1. surgery (burn, ablate, remove).

5.a. endometriosis resection: for women who want to get pregnant .

5.b. hysterectomy.

5.1. traditional open surgery

5.2. laparoscopy (minimally invasive surgery) / telescope

Note: every laparoscopy will burn eggs.

After surgery must immediately get pregnant (to prevent relapse).

I am going to see a gynecologist in early April 2012.

What to expect?

  1. ultrasound scan
  2. internal examination
  3. blood test (if suspect oncogenic cyst)
  4. PAP smear

Caveat: both ultrasound scan and internal examination may fail to detect endometriosis, particularly small cyst, scar, tiny powder deposit.

Please pray for me.


1. All surgery involves risk (of complications). Consider all possible treatment options before you decide on surgery. No surgery is safe. But the degree of safety depends on our doctors and the hospitals as well as our own body to recover.

2. Dr Ng Ying Woo said that irregular bleeding (after menstrual) may not be due to the endometriosis.

3. Menstrual cramps are not necessarily due to endometriosis.

Dr Stephen Chew said all the $ in the world cannot buy healthy eggs. The same goes for our health, they are very precious.

Someone once asked the Dalai Lama what surprises him most. This was his response:

"Man, because he sacrifices his health in order to make money.

Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.

And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present;

the result being that he does not live in the present or the future;

he lives as if he is never going to die,

and then he dies having never really lived."

4. As women grow older, our chance of getting pregnant decreases.

25 years old: 25%

35 years old: 15%

40 years old: 5%

What are possible fertility treatment?

1. IUI (put sperms into womb) : 8–10 % success rate.

2. IVF (test tube baby) to bypass the tube. 25-40% success rate.

I made a new friend with M, one of the most encouraging and courageous women I have encountered in life. I will never forget how she holds my hand.

She shared her experience in front of many people.

M suffered from endometriosis.

She had 2x surgeries.

After her first surgery, she did not take oral contraceptive pills (which are useful to prevent the relapse of endometriosis).

She was not aware of that, and since she is a Catholic, like me, by religion we are not supposed to take contraceptive pills (which she thought to prevent procreation).

I think rules need flexibility, if taking contraceptive pills is to allow recovery so that a woman has higher chance to conceive, then it is actually promoting procreation.

After her 2nd surgery, she took the contraceptive pills to prevent the relapse of endometriosis for 2 years.

Then, she stopped taking contraceptive pills after no sign of endometriosis.

She used ovulation kit to assist pregnancy and succeed after 1 year of trying.

She got her first child after 10 years of marriage, but she NEVER GIVE UP!

Now, she is a happy Mom and wishes for the 2nd child.

I am praying for you, M.

PS: M told me that Dr Fong Yoke Fai succeeded in treating her. Before that, she was seeing another gynecologist who was unhelpful and wasted her 5 years of life.

Pondering on estrogen:

Estrogen seems to me like a double edge sword.

Estrogen makes women beautiful (rosy cheek).

Estrogen promotes endometriosis.

The good news is even if one has low estrogen, make-up (lipstick, blushers) can help.

More info:

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April 1, 2012 at 2:22 am

Tips: finance for women

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Since the first day leaving away from my parents at the tender age of 14, I started budgeting. Recording my expenditure (to be in control so that they do not exceed my income). My income was money sent by my parents. As I made progress in my study, my income include money generously given by my benefactors, part-time work (though lowly paid hourly based salary, I still cherished it!), giving tuition to my juniors.

avoid DEBTS if possible.
Now I only have housing mortgage.
Please try your best to pay your credit card bills.
I only subscribe to credit cards that give annual fee waiver, therefore I do not keep many credit cards.
Be firm to reject the temptations that come with credit card applications.

Consider possibilities of emergency.
e.g. of emergency: illness (which troubles me in March 2012!), home repair, vehicle repair, parents health need.

buy a HOME.
I used to rent due to my nomadic life, but the $ I use for paying rent is better spent to pay for mortgage.
Our current home is not really our home, but at least we can sell it in the event of emergency.
Why is it not really our home?
1. It will only be under our name after we finish paying all the 30-years mortgage.
2. At the end of several decades, we have to return it (due to 99-year lease). We cannot give it to the next generation!
Thus, (1) I must not be too attached to our home. Being unattached is a way to raise our consciousness. (2) a dream is to buy a more permanent home.
Home LOCATION is important!
Is it safe (especially for women)?

INVEST in yourself, stocks, bluechips, trusted business partners.
Since the beginning of 2012, I have been actively investing in myself (my intelligence, consciousness, enterprise).
I share my tips to you all my Dear friends, as I want you also to benefit from my growth.
Go for an occasional indulgence.
I always plan for at least 1x trip to a new destination.

RETIREMENT seems so far for me.
Ladies, by all means, I encourage you to plan for your retirement.
If you have tips for me, I would be very happy to listen to 🙂

SAVE for emergency.
Blueroselady, you have to work hard for this!
With my current income, I do not have much to save, but I am trying to find ways to do so.
If you have any suggestion, I am more than happy to learn about it and will be forever grateful to you 🙂

Beware of EXPERIENCED SALESMEN/ SALESWOMEN who will show you a higher-priced item first (the anchoring / 1st thought trap).
Buy products based on their MERITS, instead of popularity.

Note: first written in March 2012.

Written by blueroselady

March 20, 2012 at 6:52 am

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Tips: do not compare (人比人气死人)

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A magazine said that women like to compare where others are on the career / marriage / babies / look / health ladder – specifically, where they are in relation to you.

e.g. of comparing women.
“She had a baby at 42, there’s hope for me yet”.
“I’m glad I went back to work after having my kinds. She took so much time out, and there just aren’t the jobs now”.
“She may have millions in the bank, a successful film career, and be a year younger than me, but at least I have my own breasts and an understanding husband.”

A 45-year-old lawyer: I have always focused on my career so I am obsessed with women’s age relative to achievement and what else they have done in their life”.

In order to make us purchase more, we need to be made to feel more and more lacking in something. Women are particularly prone to it.

For every example you find that makes you feel good about yourself, there is always another that makes you feel bad.

Never compare yourself to others for there will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself – in other words, benchmarking optimism can easily tip you into despair.

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April 10, 2011 at 6:17 am

International Women’s Day

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March 8th, 2011:
* Women represent 70% of those living on less than $2 a day.
* Women suffer inequitably from the chronic effects of poor nutrition, insufficient healthcare and limited educational opportunity.
* Women do 66% of the world’s work and receive only 10% of the pay.
* Women spend 90% of their income on their families, while men typically spend only 35%.
* Women who contribute to family finances have greater decision-making power, resulting in better nutrition, health and education for their children. When family needs are met, women are more likely to invest in their communities.

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March 8, 2011 at 6:34 am

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