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《經典的六句話》

①容易走的都是下坡路。Difficulties
②自由不是想幹什麼就幹什麼,而是想不幹什麼就不幹什麼。Freedom

③命,乃失敗者藉口;運,乃成功者的謙詞。 Fate vs fortune.
④打動人心的最佳方法,是談他最珍愛的東西。 Care and concern.

⑤品格不由你佔有的東西決定,而是由你匱乏的東西塑造的。
⑥鬱悶時 (when depressed),坐下來犒勞自已,原諒別人,也放過自己。

Thank you google translate!

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August 13, 2013 at 3:38 pm

How to deal with con artists?

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A mentor of mine CNC admitted that she has met many con men and women in her life.

I am using the law of repulsion, which is the opposite of the law of attraction. I pray that I am having Divine Protection whenever and wherever I am. Though there are bad people in the world, please do not allow me to be in the same time and place as they are. If I have to be in the same time and place as they are, please let them do not have any malicious intention towards me.

Besides using the law of repulsion , here are useful tips on how to deal with con artists.

What are the characteristics of con artists?
1. CREATIVE in both designing their schemes and carrying the cons.
2. DISCIPLINED. They systematically work toward their objective.
3. PERSISTENT. They never think about giving up.
4. ENTHUSIASTIC. They do not lie in bed and feel sorry for themselves. They are trying to get absolutely everything out of life that they can.
5. POSITIVE. They do not doubt that their plan will work.
6. OPPORTUNISTIC. They seize the moment.
7. HARD WORKERS. They are always "ON".
8. COOL under pressure. If you ask a con artist, "Are you conning me?" he or she will look you in the eyes and say, "How could you think that after all we have been through together?"
9. SYMPATHETIC. It is comforting to know that someone in the world "really understand you"
10. EMPATHETIC. They seem to take on your problems as their own.

Many of the characteristics are also shared by good friends, acquaintances, colleagues, mentors, and admirable role models. It is not easy to really know what is inside the heart of a person.

Who are con artists prey on? People with the following …
1. eternal optimism. People with open eyes, but do not see anything negative — or potentially negative — in anyone. Do not be too trusting, this makes you vulnerable. A simple guide is to use the 70:30 trusting ratio that MR told me.
2. greed. People who want to get something for nothing. There is no free lunch! Do not expect something for nothing. No one can con us if we want nothing from him / her.
3. insecurity. Please release the need to have others’ approval. Con artists are happy to butter up and tell insecure people how wonderful they are. Beware of those who praise / compliment us too much.
4. neediness (in emotional comfort). Con artists are sympathetic and empathetic. Is the person sympathetic and empathetic by nature, or only when s/he has something to gain from you?
5. power. Be careful when you have accomplishment. The higher we climb, the stronger the wind that blows us.
6. hunger for advancement. Con artists may take advantage of your ambition.

How to protect yourself from con artists?
1. self-understanding: understand our characters and circumstances. Do we have eternal optimism, greed, insecurity, neediness, power, or hunger for advancement?
2. use both LOGIC + GUT FEELINGS.
3. exhaust the con artist. Let them sing, dance, and give their entire bag of tricks, but we must be more persistent than they are. Do not give in.
4. avoid / stay away.

It is always good to be careful and the good news is many people are honest and good.

More: The art of war for Women

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October 1, 2012 at 2:44 pm

Autism

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A year ago, I met an autism boy who appears as a healthy and active boy. I feel for his parents, he has a loving mother who gives up her career and income to take care of him; and a loving father who is easy-going. He also has a talented sister. Life has so many mysteries. Many WHY in my mind.

Living life behind glass...’ that’s how Wendy Lawson, a person with autism, described how it is to have autism.

Although autism was first identified in 1943, it is still a relatively unknown disability. It is a lifelong condition that affects the way a person relates and communicates with others. A person with autism, generally has impairment in his or her communicative, social interaction and imaginative abilities.

People with autism may have related learning disabilities but everyone with the condition shares a difficulty in making sense of the world. Autism is also referred to as Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) to represent the myriad of characteristics that people with autism have. However, it is important to note that autism is not a mental condition.

What are the characteristics of autism?
All people with autism have difficulty functioning adequately in these 3 areas:
1. Interaction
Difficulty with social relationships eg. Appearing aloof and indifferent to other people
2. Communication
Difficulty with verbal and non-verbal communication eg. not really understanding the meaning of gestures, facial expressions or tone of voice
3. Imagination
Difficulty in the development of play and imagination eg. having a limited range of activities, possibly copied and pursued rigidly and repetitively

Additional info:
Autistic individuals seem to have larger brains. They also seem to process information differently; in other words, their brains are “wired” differently.

What causes autism?
The exact cause of autism is still not known. Research suggests a genetic link. It also indicates that autism may be associated with a variety of conditions affecting brain development which occur before, during or even soon after birth.

Heritability contributes about 90% of the risk of a child developing autism, but the genetics of autism are complex and typically it is unclear which genes are responsible. In rare cases, autism is strongly associated with agents that cause birth defects. childhood immunizations.

a few rare genetic disorders and toxic exposures are known to cause autism.
“spontaneous” genetic mutation which are not inherited. In addition, studies have shown that parents from families with autistic members are more likely to have autistic children, and families with one autistic child are at increased risk of having more than one autistic child.

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Researchers at Cambridge and Oxford universities believe both Albert Einstein and Isaac Newton displayed signs of Asperger’s Syndrome – a type of autism.
Many people with Asperger’s are often regarded as being eccentric. They sometimes lack social skills, are obsessed with complex topics and can have problems communicating.
“What most people with Asperger’s Syndrome find difficult is casual chatting – they can’t do small talk.” Blueroselady also does not like small talk, we have to read books on how to start a small talk, sigh.

Although there is no known cure for autism, early diagnosis, intervention and specialised education can make a big difference to the life of a person with autism.

Our Questions:
How can we prevent autism?
How can we cure autism?
How can we help autistic children to live a better life?

References:
Wikipedia
http://autism.about.com/od/whatisautism/p/autismcauses.htm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/2988647.stm

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April 23, 2012 at 2:22 am

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Dream while sleeping, dream while being awake

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Sometimes I got nightmare that I wish to forget.
Sometimes I have beautiful dreams.

February 18th, 2011: scuba diving!

February 19th, 2011: Panda and I are studying together (perhaps we are collaborating on a project recently), we are looking for a site to study. There are so many students and our undergraduate university are expanding. I need to ask people while looking for a restroom. Indeed, I have never been back to my undergraduate university and she has grown so much, she dreams (or perhaps whoever manages her) to be a world-class one. All best!

February 23rd, 2011: Saw the colorful close-up photos of my friend Y, and her wheelchair is smartly invisible. She looks so happy, when she is happy, I am also happy.

What are my dreams while I am not sleeping?
Big-hearted, Beautiful, Brainy blueroselady.
Happy family with a doting husband + kids + dog (like the one who greeted me warmly when I returned from library at 10 or 11 pm), where God and Mother Mary always love and protect us.
Successful entrepreneur (innovation, commitment, inspiration).
Grand plan with Panda.
education fund for needy and hardworking children.
Travel the world with my soul mate (appreciate diverse arts, culture, and people from many corners of the world).

Below are bonuses, I appreciate if I achieve them:
Intern / work at a Fortune 500 company.
My own guest house like Nice Home Sweet Home.
A property in a foreign land (perhaps China near Shanghai).

Please pray for me!
Wish me lucks and blessings.
I love to share my blessings too.

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December 30, 2011 at 12:13 am

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《經典的六句話》

①容易走的都是下坡路。Difficulties
②自由不是想幹什麼就幹什麼,而是想不幹什麼就不幹什麼。Freedom

③命,乃失敗者藉口;運,乃成功者的謙詞。 Fate vs fortune.
④打動人心的最佳方法,是談他最珍愛的東西。 Care and concern.

⑤品格不由你佔有的東西決定,而是由你匱乏的東西塑造的。
⑥鬱悶時 (when depressed),坐下來犒勞自已,原諒別人,也放過自己。

Thank you google translate!

PS: from a friend from Taiwan

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December 4, 2011 at 7:53 pm

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