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Ten cool things about Marissa Mayer

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1. among the best: No. 3 on the 40 under 40 according to Fortune edition October 29, 2012.

2. wears multiple hats: A CEO, a Mom (to a baby boy since September 30, 2012), a wife (to Zack Bogue since 2009).

3. visionary and ambitious:
(A) Google’s 20th employee, Google’s 1st female engineer. She was offered a job in Oracle, Toyota, Carnegie Mellon, McKinsey, Google. If she went to McKinsey, she could give advice to Fortune 500 companies, but she chose Google (to help change the world), although she admitted that she gave the drilling Sergey Brin and the quiet Larry Page a 2% chance.
(B) has planned to make Yahoo "the absolute best place to work". Will this talent-focused approach make Yahoo’s products more innovative and delightful?
(C) Marissa told Yahoo employees that she will follow
"the rule of 100 million", invest only in products and ventures hat have a good shot at reaching 100 million users and $100 million in revenue. Possible e.g. PubMatic, Criteo, Pulse, Flipboard.

4. Courage to move out of comfort zone. Her personal career credo: "Do things that you’re not quite ready to do. And surround yourself with the smartest people." She gave up daily programming that she loved for moving into management.

5. nurture talent: leadership depends on nurturing talent. Delegate to succeed. Her proteges include Jess Lee (CEO of fashion startup Polyvore).
incredibly energetic, loves hard work, she pulled an all-nighter at least once weekly in Google’s early days. Sometimes I wonder if over-work results in a trade-off, e.g. beauty for women. I find that her photograph by Robyn Twomey used by the Fortune magazine (p49) makes her look older with a line on cheek and no smile. As a woman, I prefer to look younger and smiling.

6. transparent: she admits that she is an introvert, but she is not a loner.

7. Well-educated: In undergraduate, she focused on symbolic systems, that integrates psychology, linguistics, philosophy, computer science. Aims: to figure out how people learn and reason, to endow computers with human-like behavior. She later graduated from Stanford with a master’s degree in computer science. Before then, she got accepted at every college she applied to (Harvard, Yale, Northwestern, Duke, 6 others). It is always good to be interdisciplinary.

8. Well-rounded: her Dad was a water-treatment plants engineer, Mom an art teacher, brother is sport (hockey)-loving. Her Mom instilled in her a willingness to try anything; every day of the week, her Mom took her to a different lesson: swimming, skating, ballet, piano, cake decorating.
This can be an inspiring plan for my progeny.
In high school, Marissa was an all-round over-achiever:
captain of the debate team.
captain of pom-pom squad, thanks to her sheer talent, hard work, fairness.

9. data-driven (she used spreadsheet / matrix to decide which college to attend, which of her 14 job offers to choose upon graduation), democratic, fun.

10. acronym-loving e.g. PB&J = Process, Bureaucracy, Jams.

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January 24, 2013 at 3:46 am

How to manage disappointment and anger?

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The 1st Tuesday of Oct 2012 was a day when Blueroselady felt angry. She is rarely angre for most time.

She woke up very early to meet her boss, only to be told 10 minutes prior to the meeting that the meeting was going to be postponed.

With a thick face, she had to fight for a seat in the crowded public transport.

She had to share credits for a project with someone who contributed none.

She had to buy an iPhone 5 with contract for someone because his parents asked for help. Givent that the parents are semi retiree who live frugally, Blueroselady is disappointed that the son who just started college is going to pay a monthly bill that can pays for Blueroselady’s 3 month expenditure on mobile phone bill.

Looking back now, they all are trivial matters.

Often, when we are disappointed and angry, we are overwhelmed by the emotion that prevents us from thinking rationally. If this happens, how can we better manage our disappointment and anger?

If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. Chinese proverb

Here are the strategies:

When you are angry, avoid reacting immediately (e.g. speaking, arguing, confronting, shouting), unless there are immediate dangers. Calm our minds and organize our thoughts 1st, so that we do not end up hurting / making others angry, and hence continuing the viscious cycle.

Siberian North Rail Road for Stop, Notice, Reflect and Respond.
Stop to take a deep breath. Taking a deep breath can really calm our minds.
Reflect why you are angry from a 3rd person perspective (neither victim nor offender).
Respond. You always have control / choice in how you are going to respond. Be the master of your emotion, instead of letting your emotion winning over you.

Love yourself. Make this top priority. Because you love yourself, you cherish your health, and you can command your mind to tell your feeling: ok, enough of anger.

Sufficient rest / sleep. Our health deserves the best care. This is part of loving ourselves.

Master the art of endurance. The character for ren in Chinese consists of a knife on top of a heart. Yes, it is painful to have a knife cutting our heart, but the result is endurance, resilience, and perseverance.

Learn a lesson. There are always things to be learned from every situation. There are things worth fighting, there are things that are better left (e.g. rude salespeople / customer services).

See the big picture in space and time. Ask yourself, will things / people that cause your anger matter in X amount of time (e.g. 1 year, 5 years time)? You may not bump into the person again. You may have moved to better places / positions. CNC told me that the best revenge is not revenge but by achieving success.

Visualize them as a little baby / child. It is hard to be angry at little children. This technique was learned from a kind lady LH.

Think of our role models. What are our role models going to do in such situation? Bring the matters to our daily counselor meeting, ask for their opinions.

Detach ourselves. We can care / love others, but we have to be detached from our care / love. In Blueroselady’s example, the character and spending habit of the son causes her pain (hence disappointment and anger) because she cares about the family. She can continue to care, give her best advices, but separate her feeling from the outcome of her efforts. How? by having low or no expectations.

Lower / have no expectations. Accept things and other people as they are. It is hard to change other people. Instead of wasting time to change others, it is better to improve ourselves.

See also the philosophy of life.

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October 5, 2012 at 8:17 am

The philosophy of life

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A note shared by a friend who is a teacher.

All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
Always choose life.
Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age.
Believe in miracles.
Cry with someone. It’s  more healing than crying alone.
Don’t audit life. Show up and MAKE THE MOST OF LIFE now.
DON’T COMPARE your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all  about.
Envy is a waste  of time. You already have all you need.
Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But DON’T WORRY; God never blinks.
Forgive everyone everything.
Frame every so-called  disaster with these  words: In 5 years,  WILL THIS MATTER?
Get outside every day. MIRACLES are waiting everywhere.
Get rid of anything that isn’t USEFUL, BEAUTIFUL or JOYFUL.
GOD LOVES YOU because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
Growing old beats the alternative — dying  young.
However good or bad  a situation is, it will change.
If we all threw  our problems in a  pile and saw everyone  else’s, we’d grab ours  back.
It’s NEVER TOO LATE to have a HAPPY CHILDHOOD. But the 2nd childhood is up to you and no one else.
It’s OK to get angry with God. God can take it.
It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
Make PEACE with your past so it won’t screw up the present and future.
No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
OVER PREPARE, then go with the flow.
Pay off your credit cards every month.
SAVE for retirement starting with your 1st paycheck.
Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
The best is yet  to come.
The most important sex organ is the BRAIN.
Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
What other people think  of you is none of your business…
Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you STRONGer.
When in doubt, just take the next small step.
When it comes to  going after what you love in life, DON’T  TAKE NO for an answer.
You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family, parents, lover will. Stay in touch.

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February 13, 2012 at 4:57 pm

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Let us co-operate and collaborate

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George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950), an Irish Author & Playwright, wrote:
If you have an apple and I have an apple and we exchange apples then you and I will still each have one apple.
But if you have an idea and I have an idea and we exchange these ideas, then each of us will have two ideas.

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May 25, 2011 at 2:13 pm

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Discerning the Truth (2010-06-13)

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This is an article written by Father Ronald Rolheiser.

Many of us today tend to be intimidated by any kind of knowledge that makes scientific claims. Who dares argue with science? Who dares argue with the experts? Very few, and those who do are easily dismissed as backward or ignorant.

And so inside of our lives, objectified expertise generally trumps moral insight or, worse still, is simplistically identified with it. Truth is truth, science has the truth, and science trumps our moral concerns (which can be made to appear parochial and fear-based in the face of scientific claims). Thus the idea is prevalent that we should listen to the scientific experts when it comes to discerning the truth.

But is it really that simple? And who really are the experts? What makes someone an expert? A post-graduate degree? Being a mother who’s raising her family well? Being a respected researcher? Living a good life? Being steady and faithful? There are various kinds of experts.

Moreover there is also the issue of personal integrity and how this relates to “expertise”. What’s to be said for the truth of someone who produces scientific insight but who leads an unhealthy life? Does man or a woman’s personal life affect his or her research and professional expertise?

Many great thinkers – philosophers, theologians, and even scientists – would say that it does. Truth can never be divorced from moral insight since truth and morality are really one at their base. Hence personal integrity or lack of it in any researcher or scholar in some way does color his or her expertise, however imperceptible this might be on the surface. How?

Aristotle, for example, had a concept he called phronesis, which taught that it is impossible to separate the teaching of truth from the practice of virtue. For Aristotle, genuine knowledge, the type that ultimately makes you a better human being, could not issue forth from someone whose intellectual theory and personal moral life were radically out of sync.

Albert Einstein, in effect, said that it is impossible to do research that does not include a lot of me-search. Who we are and what perspective we have on reality will always help determine how we see the world and articulate any theory about it. And who we are and our perspective on reality is always partly shaped and deeply colored by our own moral lives. Our moral lives deeply influence our research because they help shape our eyesight.

The medieval mystic, Hugo of St. Victor, had an axiom for this: Love is the eye! For him, our eyesight is largely shaped by either the love or bitterness that is inside of us at any moment. When I look at the world with love, I see it one way; when I look at the world with bitterness, I see it another way. That’s also true for every researcher. Granted mathematics is beyond emotion, but the realities to which we apply it aren’t.

Finally, and not least, Jesus teaches that we see the world accurately only to the extent that we are pure of heart. When he said this he wasn’t just talking about having purity of heart in order to see straight religiously, he was affirming that purity of heart is a pre-condition in order to see straight in every way, religiously, morally, practically, and scientifically.

What we see through a microscope is partly colored by how we are feeling about life in general and how we are feeling about life in general is deeply colored by how we are living morally.

And so what’s the lesson?

The lesson here is not the one that you sometimes hear in circles of fundamentalist religion, namely, that we should stop listening to scientists, academics, and technological experts and should try to dispute their insights by using scripture. Our task is not to become defensive about the findings of the various professional academies, to stop studying.

Rather, these are the lessons:

First, honor the findings of genuine science and research even if you aren’t always enthralled about their source. All truth has one author, God. Thus God is the source of the bible and God is also the source of science and its findings. Accept truth in all its guises, but be less intimidated by the teachings of those experts who claim scientific objectivity without acknowledging their own limits, their own hidden judgments, and their own biases, particularly when their truth touches questions of health, meaning, morality, and happiness. A good researcher admits elements of me-search, is humble about the truth.

Next, recognize that expertise is a wide charism (GIFT OF GRACE) that issues forth from many circles. There are experts in science, but there are also experts in goodness, in love, in friendship, in kindness, in fidelity, in hope, in peace-making, in courage, in prayer, in honesty, in chastity, in aesthetics, in practical sanity, and in humor.

When you are looking for stars by which to guide your life scan the heavens widely. Don’t lock-in on one narrow corner. There are many stars, each with its own particular expertise in giving off light.

Blueroselady: respect our teachers and experts in the field, be independent, seek teachers from other fields and learn from them.

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June 29, 2010 at 3:01 pm

Swissair: an ending legacy

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I read from the Wikipedia that McKinsey was partially responsible for the demise of Swissair after they recommended The Hunter Strategy. Like the frog under the well, I did not know that Swissair has long gone. I remembered that a friend told me that he just flied with Swissair last year. Alas, Swissair, one of the major international airlines and known as the “Flying Bank” due to the financial stability of the airline, causing it to be regarded as a Swiss national symbol and icon, adopted the Hunter strategy in the late 1990s and after the economic turndown following September 11, Swissair’s assets dramatically lost value grounding the already troubled Airline in October 2001.

I always think of the Swiss precision and efficiency, but human beings are prone to errors, no matter how talented they are.

This example made me think of some interesting observations.
There are known unknown.
There are unknown unknown.
No companies, enterprises, winners, civilizations, countries, are going to stay forever. The differences lie on the time scales. For an average company, surviving its 5 years is a good job. For an admirable company, surviving 50 years is excellent. For countries, they may thrive centuries and perhaps millennia.

Like them, we human beings are considered very fortunate if we are able to live up 100 years based on today living standard. Our days are counted. What can we do then? Instead of chasing 2Fs (fame and fortune), or 6Cs (cash, car, credit cards, career, condominium / property, club membership), or people (beautiful women, rich men), why don’t we live to give our gifts to others? We come to this world bringing nothing, we will leave carrying nothing too. Easy to say, hard to do. I myself still suffer from human conditions (wrath, avarice/greed, sloth, pride, lust, envy, and gluttony).

Wrath = anger = rage = hatred. When somebody wrongs me, I try to think in his shoes, perhaps I would do the same if I were him. This way, I have less anger. I also think of their mothers, who love them very much. We share universal respects for mothers, and no mothers want to see their children being harmed, even if their children are evil.

Avarice = greed. We always want more and more, don’t you? I admire monks and nuns, priests and sisters, they gave up their worldly things for God or enlightenment.

Sloth = the failure to utilize one’s talents and gifts. It refers not only to being lazy, but also to being selfish and indifferent to share our talents and gifts.

I will write more on the rest in the future.

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March 11, 2010 at 12:22 pm

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Love and Research

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Similarity between Love and Research

Woody’s definition of Love
Love is to suffer, to avoid suffering one must not love, but then one suffers from not loving, therefore to love is to suffer and not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer; to be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering make one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much of happiness.

My friend’s (B.R.) definition of Research
Research is to suffer, to avoid suffering one must not do research, but then one suffers from not doing research, therefore to do research is to suffer and not to do research is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to do research. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering make one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must do research or love to suffer or suffer from too much of research.

If you have both in your life “god bless you”

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July 11, 2009 at 3:46 am

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