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Are you / your loved one an ENFP? 26 fun & spontaneous points to understand them

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ENFP = Inspirer = Visionary

Famous people who are ENFP:
Fidel Castro
Bill Cosby
Tom Cruise
Walt Disney
Anne Frank
Che Guevara
Don Quixote
Jerry Seinfeld
Dr. Seuss
Charlie Sheen
Mark Twain
Oscar Wilde
Robin Williams

@~@ have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives.
@~@ value authenticity.
@~@ thoughtfully quixotic / exceedingly idealistic.
@~@ need time alone to center themselves.
@~@ future-oriented.
@~@ project-oriented.
@~@ bright / capable to grasp difficult concepts, abstracts, theories / versatile.
@~@ creative / imaginative / energetic / enthusiastic / curious.
@~@ frisky / playful, bubbly yet serious.
@~@ easily bored / dislike doing routine tasks (including eating the same food everyday!) / dislike bureaucracy.
Solutions:
1. give your ENFP employees / family members new / exciting projects in which they can exercise their creativity.
2. since ENFP is not good at following things through to completion, s/he can collaborate with completer finisher or avoid jobs which require performing a lot of detailed, routine-oriented tasks.
3. for love partner, be comfortable with the need of change and new experiences that ENFP is craving for.
4. ENFP must learn how to prioritize, to overcome procrastination and to be more organized.
@~@ have great people skills, friendly, extremely intuitive and perceptive about people.
@~@ able to understand and relate to all of the personality types with relative ease.
@~@ Make connections between events and information very quickly.
@~@ ENFP learns best through a variety of means, such as observing, reading, and listening to and interacting with others.

@~@ charismatic / a natural entertainer with lively sense of humor & a gift of gab / chatter, dramatic, energetic, optimistic, fun, spontaneous.
@~@ strive for win-win situations.
@~@ Natural leaders, but do not like to control people.
@~@ excel at bringing out the best in others.
@~@ dislike / resist being controlled / labeled / micromanaged by others / restrained by rules / regulations. ENFP strongly needs to be independent & a master of own fate.
@~@ ENFPs do well with suggestions, not commands.
@~@ needs approval / affirmation / appreciation from others, extreme dislike of criticism.
ENFPs may also feel threatened by individuals with strong Judging preferences. With a tendency to take any criticism personally, the ENFP may find themselves irritated or emotional when the Judger expresses a negative opinion, believing somehow that the Judger is expressing disapproval or disappointment in the ENFP.
Solutions: give our dear ENFP friends / colleagues / family members appreciation and gratitude.
@~@ have a strong need to be liked. Solution:
ENFP have to learn to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance.

@~@ ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person / situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.
@~@ ENFP often suffers from muscular tension.
Solution:
Learn to discipline themselves against beginning too many projects and making commitments to too many people.
@~@ analysis paralysis. ENFPs always look for hidden motives and tend to over think even the simplest things, constantly asking themselves why someone did what they did and what that might mean.
@~@ naturally agreeable. vulnerable to schemers or con artists.

Suitable career for ENFP:
Entrepreneur
Writer / Journalist / Television Reporter
Computer Programmer / Systems Analyst
Scientist / Engineer
Psychologist
Consultant / Counselor
Teacher
Artist / Actor
Politician / Diplomat

Expectations and communication are two basic areas of relationship.
In love relationship, people are usually attracted to their opposite on the Extraversion/Introversion and Judging/Perceiving scales.
ENFP’s natural love partner is INTJ or INFJ.
However, when it comes to work colleagues, or friends, we are not especially interested in dealing with people who are very unlike ourselves. We are most comfortable with those who have similar interests and perspectives, and we do not show a lot of motivation or patience for dealing with our opposites.

Related:
http://kevintiller.com/about-2/i-am-an-enfp/
http://beingabeautifulmess.wordpress.com/2012/09/24/im-married-to-my-polar-opposite-istj-enfp/
http://www.elizabethesther.com/2011/04/in-defense-of-dithering-and-enfps.html
http://www.elizabethesther.com/2012/04/enfp-in-photos.html
http://www.opp.com/en-ie/tools/mbti/mbti-personality-types/enfp
http://happyandhealthykate.wordpress.com/tag/enfp/

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Are you / your loved one an INFJ? ~40 simple descriptions to understand them

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Since a good friend of mine is INFJ and I would love to understand her,
I have been highly motivated to learn (and now share) about INFJ people.

INFJ = Protector = Counselor = Confidant = Healer = Foreseer Developer.

Only 1% of the population has INFJ personality (the most rare personality type).

Dear INFJ,
“You are not here merely to make a living.
You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply,
with greater vision,
with a finer spirit of hope and achievement.
You are here to enrich the world,
and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand.”
Woodrow Wilson

Famous people who are INFJ:
Amelie Poulain
Carl Jung
D Yuri Zhivago – Doctor Zhivago
Eleanor Rossevelt
Goethe
Jimmy Carter
Mahatma Gandhi
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Mother Teresa
Nelson Mandela
Nicole Kidman
Oprah Winfrey
Plato

and fictional characters of INFJs:
Luke Skywalker
Jane Eyre

Bloggers who declare themselves as INFJs:
Jennifer Zhang
Barbara Coz

@~@ live with integrity / have strong value systems / Highly principled.
@~@ is independent.
@~@ is creative (artistic / original / INFJ live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities).
@~@ INFJs often think by way of images ; their minds are of visual nature.
@~@ When engrossed in creative flow / Csikszentmihalyi’s flow , INFJ experience themselves in perfect synchrony with the universe. Some have described this as a trance (an altered state of consciousness in which they morph into a vessel of creative energy). Others have likened it to divine inspiration or being visited by muses.
@~@ is visionary / idealistic / future-oriented.
@~@ are constantly in a state of self-renewal ; believe in constant growth and don’t often take time to revel in their accomplishments.
@~@ constantly seeking meaning and purpose in everything.
@~@ determined (they rarely stray from their vision no matter what it is / they don’t believe in compromising their ideals).
@~@ devoted.
@~@ hardworking.
@~@ generally “doers” as well as great dreamers.
@~@ deep / complex (INFJ has complex feelings & take great care to express them).
@~@ cooperative in reaching their goals.
@~@ gentle / easy going (although they have very high expectations of themselves).
Gandhi remarked that “In a gentle way, you can shake the world”.
@~@ is an excellent listener with almost infinite patience. In the words of infjoe, “Just because I’m quiet doesn’t mean I’m not listening. I’m busy focusing on the things that aren’t being said.”
@~@ INFJs are old souls. Many grow up feeling wiser than would be predicted by their chronological age.
@~@ natural nurturer / focus on human potentials.
@~@ altruistic / love to contribute to welfare of the human beings.
@~@ INFJ enjoy the chance to share their wisdom, theories, and insights.
@~@ natural leader ; although they are not generally visible leaders, they quietly exerting their influence behind the scenes with their families, friends, and colleagues. To quote Susan Cain, “Quiet leadership is not an oxymoron.”
@~@ caring / warm / helpful / compassionate / service-oriented / can readily ingratiate 讨好 themselves to others.
@~@ insightful ; artful / canny understanding of people & situations ; INFJ can become aware of another’s emotions or intentions-good or evil-even before that person is conscious of them. This ‘mind-reading’ can take the form of feeling the hidden distress or illnesses of others to an extent which is difficult for other personality types to comprehend.
@~@ INFJ are quick to differentiate the “real and authentic” from the “fake and contrived”. INFJ can ‘X-ray’ other personalities / they can “read” people.
@~@ Value deep, authentic relationships.
@~@ highly intuitive / spontaneous within themselves.
@~@ INFJs concern themselves with forging new connections and reconciling opposites by way of their Intuition.
@~@ focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details, and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.
@~@ strong empathy ; INFJ have strong ability to take into themselves the feelings of others, hence they can be hurt rather easily by those around them, which, perhaps, is one reason why they tend to be private people, mutely withdrawing from human contact.
@~@ protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it ; reserved about expressing their true selves.
@~@ INFJs tend to be quiet ; they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).
@~@ orderly / systematic (in their outer world) ; INFJ constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives.
@~@ INFJ are system builders; most INFJ systems are founded on human beings and human values.
@~@ Can work logically and rationally – use their intuition to understand the goal and work backwards towards it.

@~@ believe in their intuition & tend to ignore other people’s opinions. Solutions: seek trusted mentors / Jedi / collaborators.
@~@ cannot tolerate conflict very well. can easily burn out / suffer depression. Solutions: develop strong inner strength & inner peace.
@~@ a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential ; there’s always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them.
Solutions:
1. be gentle with yourself.
2. be mindful of the intrisic desire of INFJ to constantly improve their romantic partner which may be perceived as being naggy, know when to apply Siberian North Rail Road technique (Stope, Breathe, Notice, Reflect, Respond).
@~@ highly sensitive. Solutions: learn how to center & ground yourself while realizing other people’s problems aren’t always INFJ’s to help fixing.

@~@ INFJs seek high quality, in-depth relationships.
@~@ INFJ see love relationship as an opportunity to connect and grow.
@~@ INFJ enjoy relationships when they are improving and changing, but not stagnation.
@~@ INFJ’s natural partner is the ENTP, or the ENFP. INFJ is also compatible with INTJ.
Why ENFP?The inner world of INFJs in many ways resembles the outer world of ENFPs. It is playful, colorful, mischievous, and daring.

When other people don’t get INFJ, they see INFJ as manipulative / weak / unstable.

Suitable career for INFJ:
entrepreneur / marketer.
artist (e.g. designer, photographer).
scientist where they make use of their intuition.
medical Doctors / dentists / alternative medicine guru (e.g. Chiropractor, Reflexologist).
psychologists / psychiatrists.
Counselors / Social Workers.
teacher / professor / trainer.
Child Care / Early Childhood Development.
writer.

At work, INFJ stay motivated and happy … as long as they are working toward a dream they support.
INFJ are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.
Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.

Related:
http://infjoe.wordpress.com/ : with highly recommended comic / cartoon !
http://www.personalitypage.com/INFJ.html
http://www.oswego.edu/plsi/infj.htm
http://neverneverneverquit.wordpress.com/2012/10/16/i-am-an-infj/
http://anxietyadventures.wordpress.com/2012/08/15/infj-introversion-intuition-feeling-judging/
http://amytempleman.com/wordpress/2011/10/infj-what-my-meyers-briggs-personality-type-means-to-me/
Susan Cain’s Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.

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