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Decluttering in autumn 2013

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I love to remove clutters (declutter),
it cleans my physical, spiritual, and emotional life.

Decluttering allows us to realize that life is full of delightful treasures, if we take a moment to look around.

Cool stuff:
# DNA-based computers. Leonard Adleman.
# Self-tracking / health-tracking devices. Up wristband.
# portfolio career.
# What heals the soul, heals the mind and body as well.

Interesting quotes:
# Time is most definitely a thief.
Questions: What is the longest yet the shortest? What is the fastest yet the slowest?
Answer: TIME

Useful tips:
# Be careful! Over use of medication (e.g. paracetamol), either intentionally or accidentally, may damage liver.
# To fight pimples and minimize scar, I have used tea tree oil and aloe vera.
# Try to move after sitting for 45 minutes, e.g. while travelling on long-distance flight. In terms of radiation, 7 hour flight ~= an X-ray session.

Inspiring people:
# Bernie S. Siegel
# Christine Ong of UBS Wealth Management Singapore
# Reene Ho-Phang

Some random muses and reflections …

@~@ On life
An event that at first seem to be unfortunate / undesirable may actually provide surprising advantages, e.g. autumn 2007 (that affects the next 7 years).

@~@ On being unique
It is a great thing to be unique or different.
The grown ups often tell any kid (e.g. a 6 year old) that it is great to be yourself.
Be unique.
However, the goal of many grown-ups in life is to fit in.

@~@ On career
A career for life vs portfolio careers.

@~@ On gifts
Some people (e.g. KS) value expensive gifts. In case of KS, he acknowledged the hardship in his early life.
Some people (e.g. KF) value heartfelt letter of appreciation much more than expensive gifts. Possibly, people who are relatively richer than me in material wealth and assume leadership roles (e.g. my direct boss in 2013) have similar perspectives as KF does.

@~@ On travel destinations
Some destinations wow me and are perhaps best to be visited once over a short period of time (instead of residing there) in entire life, due to extreme weather conditions or high living expenses. For example, Cappadocia and Antarctica.

What’s next?
# Deal constructively with criticism. Give constructive criticism.
# What are you going to do for the rest of your life? (A question I wrote in a note taken in Switzerland)
# DO, don’t dream.

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November 16, 2013 at 2:09 pm

Details matter

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Details matter as they affect perceptions and hence emotions.
Best marketers, directors, writers, innovators, scientists pay attention to details as a form of commitment to their endeavors. For example, the movie The Grandmaster by Wong Kar Wai.

Here are 2 simple examples to illustrate the point.

1. I attended a talk to introduce a high tech small company and the technology sounds sophisticated and convincing (to me in spite of the soft spoken speaker), until I saw a typo in the reference. While I am forgiving and aiming to minimize perfectionism, I recall a warning from my structural thinking class. Consultants are rigorously trained to polish their presentation slides to the level of perfection. A single mistake in the slide means game over. An overlook of details can cause consultants to lose the trust and confidence of their clients; they simply lose their clients. Lesson: For things that matter, always double check, triple check.

2. I was excited to use a 3-color pen with a brand of Lonza on it (instead of having to carry 3 pens, I only need 1), that I received while attending a Lonza-sponsored event. But, the fact that it runs out of ink in less than 3 usage, was disappointing. I know that the pen is not manufactured by Lonza, but outsourced.
I do not mean to be ungrateful here, but this tiny experience makes me think that if I am playing a role of giver, I will ensure quality control (QC) of my gifts, particularly if the gifts are parts of marketing plan.
Giving can be a double sword, especially if the gifts are of sub-quality. Receivers of bad gifts will shift their perceptions of the givers from positive to negative.
Receivers may think that "Perhaps it is not only the gifts are lousy, but the products are lousy too!"
Receivers will also doubt the sincerity of the company / giver / (service) provider.
Lesson: Ensure QC of gifts. If I cannot ensure QC, I will just give smiles. Free but sincere.

Final remark:
If you need a team player who is attentive to details, consider having a completer finisher in your team.

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October 9, 2013 at 4:45 am

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Giving gives you happiness

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People whom I think deserve listening to and learning from, advocate giving. When we give, we will feel happy.

I have given many things in my life:
Smile.
$$$.
Time.
Gifts.
Things for donation.
Talent.
Energy / sweat.
Blood.
Encouragement.
I hope to give wisdom in the near future.

Most time I am happy to give, but there are times I am forced to give by circumstances.
For example, once a woman asked my man to help her take photo, then she asked me to lend her my (beautiful) hat. I was unwilling because it was drizzling and I did not feel well, yet I still gave in to her request.
This is a very small example, in work / school we are often / sometimes / rarely forced to give as well.

Why are we sometimes unhappy to give?
1. The receiver has more than us. They already have more / better things yet they insist / trick us to give to them.
E.g. An acquaintance WT who spent $ to study in US, then she got a scholarship to study in UK, mentioned that a beggar earns 50% more than her per month (the beggar’s income is in news in summer 2012).

2. There are imbalance of forces / power. People of authority (parents, teachers, bosses) make you to do things in which you have to give more than what you are willing to give.

3. There are inequality of contribution from collaborators / co-workers / team members in giving and receiving. A solution is to enter the joint efforts with the attitude of "giving without expecting to receive", but this does not serve the purpose of group synergy. When you collaborate, you want 1 + 1 = 3 or more. Perhaps not all collaboration makes everyone happy, if this is the case and you find yourself giving more than what you should, you can try to move on to another project then.

4. Naturally, it makes sense not to give to your competitors (e.g. in business), unless you want to turn them into your collaborators. I think the latter strategy is excellent. When you cannot beat your competitors, you join them, which I did well in summer 2009.

5. Emotion / personal likes and dislikes / chemistry. We just like some people more than others, e.g. our good / kind friends. A girlfriend of mine is rich from working in bank and claiming insurance, yet I still love to give her gifts because I love her. We have been friends for ages and I found her like my elder sister (whom I never have), wise and kind. On contrary, we may find it hard to like (hopefully very few) people. E.g. Can you like your housemate if he always leaves post-excretion signs on your toilet bowl? Can you like your neighbor who blast loud music when you want to sleep? No matter what, even if our likes and dislikes for different people vary, we will still try our best to see everyone equally. After all, we are all children of God.

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January 5, 2013 at 8:24 am

Miscellaneous in May 2012

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@~@
世上不劳而获的,我想只有父母的爱。
A joke: But part of you (before you were fertilized) swam really hard, so there is no free lunch in this world.

@~@
An admirer HY graduated this month a year ago and brought his parents around. I am proud of you!
Love Story(1970) – Theme From Love Story (Finale)

I am sorry that I did not say NO well, hope that I would not hurt you too much. His Dad has artistic interest, he has musical interest, all of you seem so talented to me.
Honestly, I can be a hard core geek, so I was looking for a non-geek.

@~@
Sometimes life can overwhelm you with work.
Just prioritize and knock things out 1 at a time.

@~@
May 15th
I suffered a sudden sharp facial pain or headache during descent, which increases as the aircraft approaches ground level.
This is termed as aerosinusitis.
Particularly for my case was sinus frontalis.
Perhaps, I had suffered from nose blocking for the past few days. How to treat? The air stewardess gave me a sweet.

This indicates that I have a vulnerable sinus. Thus, I must be more careful than others.
How to prevent in the future?
Chronic sinusitis is a condition that is present for more than three months. My pain subsided after the plan landed, so I am OK.

Note: Inflammations of the frontal sinus can give rise to serious complications, as it is in close proximity to the orbit and cranial cavity (orbital cellulitis, epidural and subdural abscess,
meningitis).

@~@
Install VLC Media Player so that I can listen to my voice notes taken using BB (in im laptop).

@~@
I win Revlon gift set.
Though the collection site is remote (hence it took a morning in the 1st week of May), yet I met a heroine of mine today (a female driver who earns $1,200 monthly). Without her, I would have to walk in heavy rain. Thank you!

New eyeshadow (Revlon CustomEyes 020 Naturally Glamorous): Keep. It is time to throw / give away my old, very seldom use eyeshadow. New lipstick: macaroon. will give away as a gift. My lips are naturally red. I love my lips. I am loyal to my only lipstick that can change color according to the layers of application.
New mascara (001 blackest black): it is time to throw away old clotted dried mascara. Before I throw them away, I can declot and create an art piece.
New foundation (Revlon PhotoReady 006 Medium Beige): to give away, does not match my skin tone (I wish it is 001 Ivory). I love my Kose foundation.
Revlon 020 Tawny Peach powder blush: Ultra-soft powder blush adds a natural burst of color to cheeks. Blends smoothly and easily for a streak-free finish.
Revlon beyond natural smoothing primer: to apply before foundation.

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May 29, 2012 at 8:26 am

Happy Valentine 2011

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My ideas this year:
a card (classic).
cook red / purple color soup of beetroot, rich in anthocyanin (powerful antioxidant).
Happy Project (the weekend preceding February 14th which fall on Monday).
watch a Korean romantic-comedy together at home.

Top Korean romantic-comedy:
The Classic a.k.a Love Story
My Sassy Girl (watched)
200 Pounds Beauty (watched)
Windstruck
My wife is a gangster
Please Teach me English. Somebody told me that this movie reminds him on Amelie.
My Little Bride (watched)
Innocent steps (watched)
Millionaire’s First Love
Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter.. and Spring (watched)

吝啬罗曼史 Jjejjehan Romance (watched)

KIV:
I consider buying a couple spa package. Yet, I guess that there will be many customers which render reduced quality of services. The same goes for restaurants, some will in fact increase their prices. Only (expensive) valentine menu is available.

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February 14, 2011 at 2:14 pm

Christmas gifts

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I am so fortunate.

I got:
(1) grey blouse with lacy (planning to wear it for our New Year, Mum said that we must wear new clothes in the new year).
(2) China peony red wedding photo folder.
(3) undergarments from Darling.

Then, we ate Bread Talk strawberry log cake.

What did i do today?
cleaning room
sending Xmas greetings
happy projects
Christmas night dinner: Pad Thai with Darling and family
chatting with Mum over the phone.

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December 25, 2010 at 3:40 pm

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Autumn

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I heard news about family members with hypertension. God, please protects my loved ones. What are the purposes of our lifes? Sometimes I wonder why people work so hard or try whatever means, to get more $, more power, higher positions, better grades. Honestly, whenever I am stuck with problems (well, I encounter problems daily in my research study) and tired, I will return to my ‘guide-to-life’, compiled from experience in less than a-quarter century. Magically, those few words can help me restore motivations in less than a second!

@~@
I know what to get as a gift for my almost-a-centenary-lady grandmother. Dried Osakazuki leaves, pressed into a fragile bookmark. I think this is the most suitable gift for her, light as a feather for postage, exotic as nowhere we can find such in our hometown, personal as collected & pressed by her grand-daughter, and natural as reflecting my grandmother’s love for plants, in particular orchids.

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October 29, 2008 at 10:12 pm

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