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8 Life lessons from dog

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Dear my beloved readers,

Are you a dog lover?
Do you have a lovely, cute, or naughty puppy or dog as your pet?
Personally, I have lived with a lovely yet naughty dog (she was only 1~2 years old when we began our relationship).
I walked her sometimes,
we played and jumped at a trampoline,
and she would always rushed down stairs when I returned from work at almost midnight.
She would look at me and pant with happiness (just for my returning home).
Her action was very heartwarming,
especially at the chilling night after a long day of work.

Or have you had a bad experience with dog?
I heard a story that in a developing country,
where the social gap is relatively wide,
a beautiful girl was bitten by a dog of a rich family.
Consequently, she suffered serious fever and died few days later.
Such a precious life had gone just like that.
Although I could not ascertain if this story was true,
it serves a reminder to us that not all dogs are good to us.

A good friend was once complaining about his neighbor’s dog.
It barked suddenly and shocked his father who has heart medical condition.
It barked fiercely at delivery men, babies and children, including those of neighbors.

In my current conclusion, dogs can be our friends (to some people dogs are their best friend) or foes.

According to BBC reports by Jonathan Amos, dog has actually evolved from wolf ‘on the waste dump’.
After knowing about this finding,
would you want to keep a wolf as a pet?
What come to your mind when you think of the word ‘word’?
Dracula.
The Red Riding Hood.
Wolves have not been positively portrayed.
On the other hand,
when we think of our pet dogs,
they are so docile and appear to be permanently stuck in a kind of innocent puppyhood.

What make (some) dogs so lovely as compared to wolves?

1. LOVE is powerful.
Dogs love unconditionally.
Once the dog wins over the love of the master, the master is willing to sacrifice / spend for / to serve the dog.
For example,
Roy Chong was helping an expatriate to look for a bungalow to rent in Singapore.
The comfortable monthly price range of the tenancy that the tenant looked for was SGD25,000 (paid by his company), and the tenant had only a request.
He wanted a pool to be available for his Golden Retriever dog to swim around.
Most landlords rejected his request, except a landlord who asked for SGD27,000.
The tenant happily spent the extra SGD2,000 so that his dog can swim / play at his home.

2. LOYALTY
Some wolves had evolved into our best friend: our dogs that protect our home from the most dangerous animal in the whole world and that is human.
For my experience, S always faithfully welcomed me when I just returned home.

3. NATURE heals. Go outdoor, walk / stroll at the park / garden, breathe in fresh air, let the tree and birds cheer us up!
To quote Threesia Goff, a little fresh air goes a long way to brighten your day.
Note : exception exists. If you live in a heavily polluted city or when haze affects your city, perhaps staying indoor combined with a weekend getaway is an option.

4. TIME is the best gift we can give to others, because even money cannot buy back the lost time.
Always make time for the people in your life.
There is a saying that you choose your friends but not your family.
So where do colleagues fit in?
Many of us who are employed spend more time with our colleagues than we do with our family or friends yet we cannot choose who our colleagues are.
In my humble opinion,
there are situations where we cannot choose who our associates are.
If our colleagues are good, we try our best to maintain harmonious fellowship, learn from them, and emulate their strengths.
If our colleagues are bad, we also try our best to maintain harmonious fellowship (not to turn anyone into a foe).

Some people said that we do not choose our parents.
I also heard that before we were conceived,
God asked us which (biological) parents we want to choose, just that when we arrived as a newborn, we forgot everything.
However, we can choose who our Godparents are.

5. be PRESENT.
Dogs live in the moment and don’t hold grudges.
Christina Villa suggests us to slow down and notice the sights, sounds, and smells of our everyday life,
as inspired by our dogs which stop to smell the roses and little children.
Although planning is important, sometimes over planning may lead to unnecessary worry. I once read from the National Geographic "Don’t worry so much. Worry is praying for what you don’t want.".
Here is some suggestions / reflections on how not to worry.

6. PERSEVERANCE : never give up!
Ever see a dog try to chase a squirrel up a tree? They jump, claw at the tree, and bark their heads off.
Personally, I have had some challenges sometimes while walking S (a golden retriever),
when we just left the gate,
she would half running half jumping instead of walking.
Once a guy remarked,
"It seems like your dog walk you instead of you walk your dog!"
S also loves to chase ducks and pursue them until S fell into a dirty drain,
and we had to spend an evening completely bathing her.

7. KNOW YOURSELF
Don’t go out without your tag. Always remember who you are, where you come from, and the name and number of someone to call if you get lost.
At minimum requirement, know how to return home after running out from your home.

8. Be genuinely INTERESTED in other people.
Being interested in other people here refers to being caring, not interrogating.
Story 1:
Z was sharing with me once she met a President’s Scholar, who interrogated her (at their first encounter) on a train.
Story 2:
When my friends visited me, S would stand on her 2 legs against my friends to welcome them.

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Written by blueroselady

June 15, 2013 at 1:29 pm

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Entrepreneur: Merry Riana

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Recently, I met up with a two friends who were from Indonesia and studied in Singapore. They are lovely oung couple in love, L and S.

S adores Merry Riana so much, she wants to be like her, young, beautiful, successful, rich, famous, and is supported by a loving husband.
Like S, Merry Riana is Indonesian who came to Singapore for her university education. Both of them struggled financially, worked part time while coping with demanding courseworks.

I agree with S that the following qualities of Merry Riana is worth emulating:
1. determination. Merry Riana is a sales agent for Prudential insurance who has won many awards. She earns her first S$1 million at the age of 26.
2. discipline.
3. faith. Like S, Merry Riana is Catholic. I think having a belief helps one to overcome many challenges and turbulations in life.

L mentions that he does have some things that he dislikes about Merry Riana.
1. Her "rags to riches" story is not entirely believable. In her childhood, Merry and her family went to Australia, so Merry was actually living a good life. Most Indonesians have not been overseas. Both L and S had never went overseas for holiday until they finished their university education and started working.
2. To appeal to Indonesians, Merry said that she wanted to study in a university in Jakarta but was forced to move to Singapore by chance instead of choice, because of the financial crisis and riot in 1998. L and S admit that many Indonesian students want to go overseas, e.g. Singapore because of the perceived better quality of education. To apply for an admission in universities in Singapore, Indonesian students have to sit for tests that was held more than half a year before the end of high school, so Merry seemed to choose to come to Singapore, instead of being forced as what she said.
3. In L’s opinion, Merry’s motivation contents are more about herself, about dreams and money, instead of concrete tips for others to follow and realize their dreams.

I feel sympathetic to S, because S looks up to Merry, while L is not so supportive of her role model.
We grow up reading biographies of inpiring people, and it hurts when our partner told us that our heroes and heroines are otherwise.
Well, while people need heroes and heroines. It is disappointing when our heroes and heroines are not as perfect as we expect, but they are also human beings.

Personality aside, I learn about the following things that I want to pursue further:

PERSONAL MASTERY

Define what courage really means to you and putting that definition to work on your own life
Understanding the Real YOU !
Re-connect with your inner life & re-charge your energy
Learning how to trust your inner self
Overcome conflicts between caring for your loved one and managing your career
Build lasting passionate relationships with your significant other
Discover your inner strengths and master the art of self-appreciation

IMAGE MASTERY

The importance of image to your professional success
Your self-image and your external image
How your professional image influences your performance and the way others respond to you
How to recognise your body shape. Understanding your body shape is the first important step, in learning what style of clothes will best suit you.
How to Determine your face shape, and most importantly how to choose the right hair style for your face shape.
How to camouflage your worst bits and highlight your best features.
Understand the fashion do’s and don’ts for each body shape. How to look thinner, How to balance big shoulders, how to cover up a big butt, how to make your legs look longer.

Merry Riana loves to share about her success, her story, about the importance of having dreams, but I do not find tangible things from her sharing (apart from vision, action, passion, get the right associates), that you and I can emulate to be as successful as her.

Since Merry Riana achieved her success by selling insurance products, I want to find out which insurance products bring success to the insurance agents. After all, not all products are created equally. As a consumer, I am also highly interested on which insurance products that provide the highest coverage per dollar that I spend.

About Million Dollar Round Table (MDRT)

From the MDRT website "The Million Dollar Round Table (MDRT), The Premier Association of Financial Professionals, is an international, independent association of more than 31,500 members, or less than 1 percent, of the world’s life insurance and financial services professionals from 464 companies in more than 80 nations and territories. MDRT members demonstrate exceptional professional knowledge, strict ethical conduct and outstanding client service. MDRT membership is recognized internationally as the standard of sales excellence in the life insurance and financial services business."

In summary, that members of MDRT demonstrate exceptional (1) professional knowledge (2) strict ethical conduct (3) outstanding client service.

But in order to qualify for MDRT, one only has to qualify for the minimum production (sales) requirements either in first year commissions or first year premiums.
For year 2011, the qualifying commissions that a Singapore adviser must earn in order to be a member of the MDRT should be at least S$103,000 to qualify for the MDRT. This is based on first-year commissions. Note that many life insurance products pay commissions over a few years. The qualifying commissions are even higher for Court of the Table (COT) and Top of the Table (TOT).

According to Wilfred Ling, the parts on "strict ethical conduct" and "outstanding client service" are outsourced to other parties.

Insurance agents are often rewarded with overseas incentive trips.

She has been to many overseas incentive places, including:
China (HK)
Korea
US (San Francisco, East Coast)
Europe (France)
… and many others.

Written by blueroselady

September 18, 2012 at 2:19 pm

Inner strength

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A friend of mine SH shared about me about self esteem. He feels that his colleagues do not respect him.

He asked me if I respect him. I said yes.
He asked what things of him that can command respects.

He thinks that only his PhD is worthy of respect.
So I helped him to list more things he can be proud and grateful of:
A kind, smart, lovely wife.
A child.
A home (though he said he still has to pay for mortgage).
A job (though he said it is getting unstable, but I think the job is physically safer and commands higher pay than a construction job).
His experience travelling around 4 continents.
His dream (not all people dare to dream big).
His contribution in terms of scientific publications.
His loyal support to his football team for many years.
His fraternity with WT, CW, D, TH.

Written by blueroselady

August 30, 2012 at 4:06 pm