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How do you define success?

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Our definitions matter.
I used to form my definition based on what I read from the media, what I heard from my teachers / friends.
Now, I have my own definitions, unshakable by transient things that I experience (see, hear).

Here are examples of how different people define success.

"Success is when I have cash, credit cards, condominium, cars, club memberships, career."
Blueroselady’s comment: Though this definition sounds materialistic, money is important things to have. On its own, money is neutral, but no money also means no honey (no enablers / enhancers for happiness). Think about how we perceive money.

"I am successful when others start feeling jealous of what I achieve."
Blueroselady’s comment:
We must be humble to prevent others from getting jealous towards us.
We must learn to be free from envy / jealousy.

"Success is when I attain my goals, or else I am a failure."
1. An occassional loss does not make one a loser. To quote the British politician Winston Churchill, "Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm."
2. There is no failure, only feedback (that our strategies have not worked). We must change our strategies, be flexible.

"Success is when I have attempted to succeed, irrespective of whether I achieve my goals or not."
Blueroselady: People who hold this belief are indeed the support of the society, they are COURAGEOUS to try regardless of the risks.

According to Seth Godin, success means that one is becoming an indispensable LINCHPIN, instead of a dispensable employee who is easily outsourced, downsized, or freelanced into obscurity. Remember that corporations (and other entities e.g. countries that work like corporations) will not take care of you for a lifetime. Start to take care of yourself now. Be self-sustainable.

"Success is when I learn something even from my failures."
1. never stop learning. This is one of the strategies to be a linchpin.
2. failure should not be promoted, but we accept it as a part of life that enables us to grow and develop into a better human being. For example, 7 out of 10 entrepreneurs fail, we know this statistic (from Morten Lund, an investor of Skype), but we should not encourage ourselves to be one of the 7 who fail.

"Success is when I fail to achieve my goals and yet continue to live life with the same zest and zeal."

"Success is when I leave this world with satisfaction that I have lived my life, irrespective of my failure to achieve any prestigious post in the society."

How do you define success?

How to achieve inner strength?
How do you perceive money and wealth?

Written by blueroselady

November 3, 2012 at 10:06 am

On defining, dreamlining, doing, being, and having

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I am a BIG dreamer.
I have many dreams.

I am very grateful that I have achieved many of my dreams, from receiving free education in top universities, flying an airplane, to sponsoring my parents for their trip to UK.

Recently, I learned about dreamlining from Tim.
Dreamlining = DREAMs + timeLINEs
It means applying timeLINEs (e.g. 6 months, 1 year) to what most people would consider DREAMs.

In autumn 2012,

Things I dream of HAVING :
happy, healthy and independent children (by 2016)
profitable property (by 2015)
freehold property in the city area (by 2019)

Things I dream of BEING :
entrepreneur (by 2014)
millionaire (by 2019)
author of a New York Times bestselling book (by 2014)

Things I dream of DOING :
increase my income (by 2014), see the target in my pink board
achieve financial freedom and abundance (by 2019)
donate 80% of what I have for charity and live comfortably with the remaining 20% (by 2019)
visit Iceland / Antarctica (by 2014) and see aurora borealis

1. If you do not know what you want,
brainstorm on what you do not want / what you hate / fear,
and write down the opposite.
2. convert BEING into DOING (actionable).

See also my bucket list, focusing on a happy and fruitful life beyond a century.

A thought on definition / meaning
Tim Ferriss wrote on p58 of his book The 4-hour workweek that being fluent in Chinese means having a 5-minute conversation with a Chinese co-worker.
In my opinion, one does not qualify to state (e.g. in one’s CV) a fluency in a particular language by merely being able to talk for 5 minutes.
This comes to my awareness that definition / meaning varies among people. I do not blame people, but I am aware that it is natural for human beings to put their PERCEIVED truth in the best light.
Recent complaints by friends (WT, SH) about students and fresh graduates who have good paper qualifications, but end up not as productive / talented as expected, are indeed related to the concept of varying meaning.
Next time when I hire someone, instead of believing what he states as his ability, I will ask for demonstration.
e.g. if someone claims a fluency in a particular programming language, ask the person to write 10,000 lines of code.

Written by blueroselady

October 19, 2012 at 11:11 am