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The journey to the West @ our home

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My partner and I had a discussion about history.

Why the chief leader of his and my birth countries (at the time when we were born) are good friends?
He asked me some Q.
I tried to use REASONing to answer.

He was reading on the history of my birth country, which he thinks as exciting as Hollywood movie. Movies are fun to watch, realities that had profound effects on your life are not fun. They change your life for worse, or better if you can rebounce from your hardship and insurmountable obstacles.
I find an analogy to explain my revolution in learning and life. It has to do with my life history (of course somehow tied to the history of my birth country), and circumstances that were beyond my control. We did not choose where we were born but we can choose how we want to live our life.
Imagine that if you had never experienced your mother’s love, you will not bother if you have her love or not; until one day you find out how loving your mother is, then you feel betrayed.
Only then you realized what had been stolen from you, your basic right for mother’s love.
But the good thing is you progress to learn about forgiveness.

I found peace after arriving at a conclusion that satisfy my many WHYs.
The leaders have their own agendas, which we commoners will possibly never understand.
My partner told me that some things (in life) do not need conclusion.
What do you think? I would love to hear from you my dear readers.
For me, having a conclusion based on understanding why some people commit some actions help me to forgive them or at least not to seek revenge or keep the bitterness in my heart.
I have been trying to release my past.
Until today, I may have the reluctance / disinclination (or fear) to read more about the massacre at my birth country.
However, to share with you, one of the most effective ways to overcome fear is to face it.
Things that happen in the past will not be able to do further harm on us.
Yes, we are still be alert but not becoming paranoid.
Now, what we can do is to create a better now and future, for a peaceful world, for our children and grandchildren.

Then, we talked about consciousness, including different levels of consciousness and how to raise our consciousness.
My partner honestly revealed to me that my weighted average of consciousness level is at sadness (it is just below the level of fear, desire, anger, pride) before reaching the positive level of courage.
It seems that there are many work that I still have to do in order to better myself.
I have to be MORE HAPPY every day, every hour, every minute, every second.

Honestly, I love to learn about many things.
When a person talk, the other listens; and vice versa.
Sometimes our home resemble the “Journey to the West” (西遊記).
Journey to the West is one of the Four Great Classical Novels of Chinese literature.
The monk Tang XuanZang continues with his lectures (or preaching).
The michievous monkey (with its child-like playfulness) continues with its I-don’t-care- behavior (but listening with astute mind).

If you like adventure and spiritual quests, you may like Journey to the West.

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March 14, 2012 at 7:53 am

Dream: scuba diving

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After sky diving, perhaps Blueroselady should try scuba diving.
Thanks to the engineering uncle we met on the return flight from Kota Kinabalu for showing us beautiful fish pictures.
Thanks to National Geography beautiful underwater images.

February 18th, 2011: I dream (in sleep) that my father and I went to a scuba diving shop, we were going to rent the equipment but they do not have the diving goggles for my myopia. How could I see the beautiful fish clearly then? Funny dream.

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February 18, 2012 at 3:13 pm

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Reflections of 2010

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I feel that I have no control over my studies. Honestly, if you ask me what my advices would be to those aspiring knowledge seekers, it is better to do a master (by coursework) than to do a doctorate degree. In a doctorate degree, your destiny is somehow determined by other people. Since we have taken these paths, and we are close the finish line (though our bosses love to extend our finish line). What can we do? Surrender everything to God (an answer to console ourselves) and try our best (a diplomatic answer).

In terms of family, I managed to spend Lunar New Year together this year (it is called Seollal in Korean). Since I am now living closed to my parents (well relatively short distance flight compared to trans-Atlantic/Pacific flights), I want to visit them every Lunar New Year. Since 1999 until 2006, I only spent one Lunar New Year with them. I also spent the 2008 and 2009 away from my parents. God taught us that family is more important than work (career), so this way I am doing more of God’s will. This summer, I met a Taiwanese middle-age woman, formerly from a lab of my grand-supervisor in Harvard, who told me that no matter how busy she is, she will always visit her parents. Thanks to the uplanned Seattle transit by United Airlines, I met a Hong Kong grand-mother who visited her parents in Toronto. With God’s blessings, I look forward to bringing my parents to enjoy vibrant Lunar New Year in our ancestor land.

Almost 5 years ago, I told Darling my 3 dream destinations. Honestly, none of them has been fulfilled. It is okay, I will still keep these dreams. Yet, God has been so genereous to me, to visit places that I have never heard of, from Cappadocia to Cyprus; to meet and work with people from different races, cultural and education backgrounds, religions (including atheists), fame and fortune status. I also started to dream to visit Antarctica, a land where no nation claims sovereignty.

I look forward to opportunities to grow with God, with Darling, and making fruitful contributions in this life. God thank you for your blessings, and in our difficulties, we seek and trust You.

In terms of career wise, our hopes are to finish our studies. We believe that God will provide to us, and we will put our efforts through hardworking, smartworking, learning humbly, and having grateful hearts.

Dec 29th: Darling told me that I have potential to do part-time selling cosmetics. I could potentially attract rich ladies from my birth country.

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December 31, 2010 at 11:59 pm

Focus on positive things in life

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I went to attend a conference, with a hope to contact the person A.R., who would later unwilling to give even 30 seconds. It reminds me again on who I am here. Not an elitist, I am more like a peasant’s child who managed to penetrate the system. It’s okay, I move on. There are many things in life worth-better to pursue. While cycling back, my mind thought of successful people who are friendly to me. They are my role models. I made a stop at the Trinity gate, for the purple flowers have blossomed into a beautiful purple carpet, with a bit of yellow ones.

At least, I learned a bit about coaching – where one of the attendees is doing unpaid research, she said she got a paper accepted yesterday. The 2nd funding I applied to was rejected yesterday.

The talk given by Christina Dodwell was interesting, she has the style of story-teller. I enjoyed it. She had a broken relationship, lost her job, so decided to travel to Africa for a year in late 70s. Her dream was scattered when her land-rover was stolen in a month there. She had been initiated into manhood in Papua, jailed, robbed, what a life experience! Losing everything is not the end of world (there’s time in her life that she lives in caravan). She also established the Dodwell Trust, to aid in English teaching in Madagascar. I want to do similar stuff too, to promote education in my birth country and my ancestor country.

I also learned about portfolio career.
A portfolio career is the pursuit of more than one income source simultaneously, usually by applying the various skills you’ve developed throughout your career to different types of work. For example, you could combine consulting with part-time work, teaching at a local college and freelance writing. You could use your speaking and facilitation skills to lead workshops at companies or educational institutions. You could even develop your own product or service.

While avoiding boring-for-me talks, I read about tips on work-life balances. I am going to put here on this weekend.

Strategies for busy researchers
For being a successful researcher and also for having a life outside of research.
There are always unexpected emergencies and opportunities that can knock us out of balance.

Ten strategies to keep our work in balance
1. MAKE A PLAN
So if we look ahead to the next year, what are our plans? What would we really like to achieve by the end of the year? By the end of 3 months? By the end of this week? By the end of today? What is the most important thing you need to get done today?

2. PICK THE RIGHT THINGS
It’s more important to be doing the right things than doing things right.
A massive teaching load is not going to help your research career.
Of course some things will be out fo our control, but not everything. Are there things on our list that are taking up time but are not really helpful?

3. MAKE TIME FOR RESEARCH
It’s suggested that we set aside two hours, e.g. between 9 and 11am, that we dedicate to writing or analysis.

4. Learn how to say NO
A good one is learn how not to say YES so readily. When someone asks us to take on a new commitment, we might answer, “That sounds interesting. Can I get back to you?” or “I’ll just need to check my diary and I’ll give you a call back”.

5. DELEGATE

6. SET REALISTIC STANDARDS
We are often critical of our own work leading to a lot of self-doubt and concerns about our ability. We can try to get an objective opinion from someone else.

7. WRITE REGULARLY (AND THEN SUBMIT IT!)
There was an experiment in which a PhD student was put on a regime of writing for two hours three days a week. He achieved  more in six weeks than he had in the previous six months.

8. DON’T CHECK YOUR EMAIL 1st THING IN THE MORNING
We can increase our daily productivity by about 20%.

9. 3D options FOR PAPERWORK (INCLUDING EMAIL):
do it.
do it later (put in diary / organizer).
discard it (do not care).

10. DEAL WITH DISTRACTIONS
~ Don’t answer our phone at certain times. Let it go to the answering machine when we are trying to concentrate / writing.
~ Turn off the ‘bing’ in our email program. Even better, turn off our email program.
~ Go to a quiet place if we need to do concentrated work.

Ten strategies to keep the non-work part of our life in balance:

1. ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES BETWEEN WORK and NON-WORK
It’s good to be off duty sometimes. That’s when we recharge, catch up with family, and attend to the other parts of our life.
A senior academic said, “In the past I used to procrastinate about things because I knew I’d do them on the weekend. Now I focus on finishing things when I’m at work because I know I’m not going to work on the weekend. It’s helped me focus on the important things”.

2. GET A ROUTINE
e.g. go church (honestly I often daydreaming), pursue arts (photography, movies), learn languages and interesting travel destinations, read books.

3. ASK OUR SIGNIFICANT OTHERS BEFORE TAKING ON MAJOR COMMITMENTS
It’s interesting to think that  many of us give our best to people we don’t know very well and the people we do care about see us when we’re tired and worn out.

4. DON’T WORRY ABOUT WORK WHEN WE REST
It’s important to distinguish between problem-solving and worry. Problem solving is a fairly structured process of working out what can be done. Worrying is recycling the same thoughts over and over. It’s a pretty destructive activity because not only does it not solve the problem, it wears out our neurons.

5. BOOK BREAKS AND HOLIDAYS
One early career researcher described how she would feel guilty about taking a holiday so she always brought her data with her so she could analyze it. Of course she never looked at it which made her feel guilty too.
Give holidays to our laptop and paperwork too.
My personal note: It’s useful to bring some of our notes for learning (not those require complex thinking ones), for waiting on the public transports, etc; good when we are returning from trips 🙂

6. DELEGATE, OUTSOURCE, GET HELP
e.g. babysitter

7. EXERCISE, DIET, HEALTH
It’s tempting, when we’re under pressure from looming deadlines, to work late into the nights and sleep less. This might work in the short term but it becomes counter-productive.

Looking after ourselves works better if we have a routine. e.g. go for a walk at lunchtime.

8. ME TIME

9. REVIEW OUR PRIORITIES
Because everyone else has the latest labor-saving gadget, you get one. And the you have to work harder to pay for it. And it doesn’t seem to save you much labor.

10. HAVE FUN

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February 25, 2009 at 3:31 pm