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Happiness exercise: daily O.G.A.M for our well-beings

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Everyday, when you wake up try to practice O.G.A.M for your well-beings, as a part of happiness exercises.

Optimism increases our hope.
Gratitude increases our joy.
Affirmations increase our confidence.

Mindfulness increases our peace.

More:
Optimism / positivity increases our hope. Optimism : (1) the belief that good things will happen to us and that negative events are temporary / transient setbacks / challenges to be overcome (2) an inclination to put the most favorable construction upon actions and events or to anticipate the best possible outcome. Aim for realistic optimism.
Gratitude increases our joy ; gratitude is about appreciating who we are, what we have and where we are — right now, right here. Notice and be thankful for the present.
Affirmations increase our confidence / self-belief.

Mindfulness / mediation / praying / dreaming / mind time / mental processing increases our peace.

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October 23, 2013 at 5:36 am

Happiness exercise: write a short introduction about yourself

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In a series of happiness exercises, I brainstorm novel and creative ideas of doings that can boost up our happiness. Today exercise is simple: write a short introduction about yourself. You can memorize it to remind yourself when you experience negative emotions, to make new friends and build new relationships, or simply to make an elevator pitch.

Here is a brief introduction about myself.

I am an ordinary woman with a BIG dream to give extraordinary service to others.

My love include life, family, stories and writing. I dream of writing a book that is enlisted in The New York Times Non-Fiction Best Sellers.

Everyday, I give my best to live and learn so that I can share useful tips about education and entrepreneurship / business,
that are thoughtful, helpful, inspiring, necessary, and kind.

I am also interested in people, travel, food (especially Asian food and Italian desserts), visual arts, movies and creative ideas.

Counting my blessings, I am grateful for being a mother, lifelong student, storyteller, researcher and marketer; and having good health and more wealth than the yesterday-me.

Thank you very much for being interested in me!

Please keep in touch and feel free to comment.

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October 11, 2013 at 6:23 am

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Happiness exercise: Describe yourself in positive ways

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Happiness means differently to different people.
To some people,
happiness means a combination of the followings:# Finding love & happily married
# Having children, grandchildren, great grandchildren
# Good health
# Be financially well-off
# Enjoying a successful career
# Ability to maintain work-life harmony
# Happy relationships with extended family (ie. parents, grandparents, siblings, nephews, etc)
# Fulfilling friendships
# Making a difference to the world. You laugh … yes, many people, including me, set their dreams so high (and hence raising the standards of attaining their happiness).

To sum up, happiness is fundamentally related to health, wealth, and children.

Since happiness is related to so wide and diverse areas of our lives, how can we work on each area of importance to us? How to prioritize?
I believe in exercises / practice. It takes 10,000 hours of practice to give birth to a real talent.
Sincerely, I want you to master the art and science of happiness,
so that you can choose to be happy
even in the face of difficult circumstances and being overwhelmed by negative emotions.

In my designed series of happiness exercises, I would share numerous effective and tested exercise to enjoy happiness in your life.

Today exercise is to describe yourself in positive ways. Write to yourself. List your favorite attributes, your achievements, your roles, your love, and anything elseo about you.

Herein, I do the exercise on myself (in the autumn of 2013)

I am …
# a mother
# a daughter
# a wife
# a student of Coursera, edX
# a researcher
# a storyteller
# an author
# an ex-artist

I love …
# people who love me & whom I love.
You can never replace anyone because everyone is made up of such beautiful specific details.” Before Sunset (2004)
# food (especially healthy affordable food and desserts)
# simplicity
# diversity
# reading (and writing) and hence books
# gardens & parks in spring & summer, in early mornings & late afternoons
# philosophy of life
# giving smiles, talks in front of groups
# learning diverse things. I believe in the “See one, Do one, Teach one” model.
# dreams
# personal development, making a syllabus for life / bucket list / life planning
# entrepreneurship + unconventional work
# (and honestly sometimes fear) change / dynamics.
The only constant is change, continuing change, inevitable change, that is the dominant factor in society today. No sensible decision can be made any longer without taking into account not only the world as it is, but the world as it will be.” Isaac Asimov

I used to love …
# travel
# photography
# fireworks
# movies
But now they are not on top of my priorities.

People who have inspired me (non-exhaustively) include:
# Anthony Robbins
# Cayden Chang
# Chris Guillebeau
# Danah Zohar
# Dale Carnegie
# Dong Mingzhu 董明珠
# Goldie Hawn
# Jean Maalouf
# Jessie Louise Yancey-Siegel, affectionately known as Weezie
# Josh Kaufmann
# Joseph Murphy
# Leo Babauta
# Leong Kaiwen
# Louise Hay
# Luciano Passuello
# Michael Ellsberg
# Napoleon Hill
# Robert Cialdini
# Tahir
# Thich Nhat Hanh
# Tim Ferriss
These people are my brothers / sisters, my mentors, my dearest friends.

Things that I want to have / have more / give more to others:
@~@ Happiness
@~@ Health
@~@ Optimism & Hope
@~@ Gratitude
@~@ Kindness e.g. smile
@~@ Empathy e.g. a listening ear
@~@ Wealth
@~@ Wisdom
@~@ Courage e.g. to make new friends

Things that I want to remove / reduce :
@~@ Fear
@~@ Sadness
@~@ Anger
@~@ Envy / Jealousy
@~@ Clutters
@~@ Disappointment

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October 2, 2013 at 11:20 am

Things to do at age 32-47 (1.5 precious decade)

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  1. Be grateful. Gratitude can soothe your desire and competitiveness. More importantly, gratitude is the root of happiness.
  2. Love yourself. Stand up for yourself for things that matter. Get out of a bad relationship.
  3. Believe that you are beautiful.
  4. Believe in miracles. “永远相信,美好的事情即将发生”
  5. Travel and continuously learn and learn how to learn (meta learning). “Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.” ~ God via Robin S. Sharma | Learn new languages by immersion.
  6. Love your work. If you cannot do what you love, at least love what you do. According to Frankl, “We can discover this meaning in life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering”
  7. Take (at least a big) risk(s) to realize your dreams, step by step strategically. Be courageous to explicitly/implicitly express “I love you”. When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.
  8. Be thick face enough not to care too much about what other people think.
  9. Plant kindness. Do your best to ensure that those who are less fortunate than you, believe that there are sunshine and beauty in this world.
  10. Build connection capital. Connection here refers to genuine and authentic relationships, true friendships.
  11. Cherish people, use things (not the other way round).
  12. Appreciate now and here, the moment, the nature and beauty in the forms of visuals, arts, music, delicious cuisine.
  13. Master the art of endurance.
  14. View a painful experience as an avenue to increase your wisdom.
  15. Move / exercise / dance / walk / hike

Ideas are inspired from:

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May 2, 2015 at 3:24 pm

Tips from various magazines

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@~@
To reduce commute time:
www.workshifting.com

Personally, commute time can be used for doing other useful stuff.
Relax (when the public transports are not too crowded).
Listen to voice notes of inspirations and ideas.
Read: study materials, news, facebook.
Plan.

@~@
According to Sally Poon (a dietician from Hong Kong Nutrition Association),
food of eating out are high in SALT, FAT & SUGAR,
which increases the risk of obesity, heart disease & hypertension.
Yes, we know all these but many times we choose to satisfy our

Minimize fried food.
Avoid preserved meat, e.g. salami.

For pasta e.g. spaghetti: red sauce (tomato-based) is healthier than white sauce.

@~@
"The more time a person spends on the job, the more conflict there is likely to be between work and family."
Do you agree with this statement?

@~@ Things that I must do:
# live my life to the fullest.
# appreciate what I have.

@~@
Short-listed things that I find interesting to do:
# Learn copywriting. Learn writing to sell a strategic idea.
# read The happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin (since January 2012)
# make DIY flash cards. First picture that I found: polar bear of Churchill, Canada. Remember that the cuddly-looking polar bear (thanks to its shaggy fur) can be dangerous. My friend J was given a polar bear soft toy as the first birthday gift from his man, and his man can be cuddly yet dangerous like polar bear!
# attend a Nobel Prize banquet @ Stockholm (since March 2012).
# eat Vosges Haut-Chocolat (chocolate with unlikely flavors like curry, taleggio, and wasabi), partly because Katrina Markoff is an inspiring entrepreneur!
# FIND TIME TO DO NOTHING. BREATHE. An advice by Tim Park, the author of Teach us to Sit Still: A Sceptic’s Search for Health and Healing.
# Remove dust! Dust can cause your TV, computer, laptop to overheat and reduce its life span. When you do house chores of vacuum cleaning, empty the dust bag when it is half-full. With a fuller dust bag, the machine has to work harder and risks overheating.
# To extend the lifespan of your mobile phone, use its appropriate charger, simply because the voltage is different. Do not charge your phone overnight.
# commit to 30-day challenge of writing a book. Thank you Matt Cutts.
# refuse to let work compromise what my body needs: nutritious, regular meals, 7-8 hours of sleep, 3×10-minute exercise.
# hit the road less traveled with a backpack like Paige Chua. She went for her first solo trip to Beijing & Inner Mongolia in 2007. Interesting reflection: city dwellers seek a simple life when travel, but rural dwellers (e.g. of Inner Mongolia) aspire to move to cities (e.g. Beijing).

Quotes that I like:
# "No one shoots you if you’ve got a smile on your face." ~ Alan Wicker, travel journalist.
# "When I visit somewhere new, I always absorb it first as a human being, then photography it as my hobby and then consider if it’s interesting enough to share with other people through Twitter, Facebook or my blog." ~ Ben Southall, Winner of Best Job in the World (2009), caretaker of Hamilton Island on the Great Barrier Reef.
# "Don’t forget that frequent business travellers are often the most frequent leisure travellers." www.businesstraveller.asia
Blueroselady: The next time someone (e.g. CV) tells you and me that he is busy travelling on business trips, he is likely to include sightseeing and leisure activities too!

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January 11, 2014 at 3:59 pm

30 revealing ideas from social psychology that can help us to appreciate people and our lives

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Below are interesting points (sometimes with some of personal thoughts & reflections) that I have learned from a course on social psychology taught by Professor Scott Plous of Wesleyan College.

@~@ Know yourself. Seach inside yourself.
LaoZi : "He who knows others is learned. He who knows himself is enlightened."
Benjamin Franklin : "There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self"
Daniel Gilbert : "We seem to know less about the worlds inside our heads that about the world our heads are inside."

@~@ People often MISWANT.
Blueroselady :
How to overcome the challenge that we are remarkably bad at predicting of what will make us happy?
This question is very important because many of life’s big decisions involve predicting our future feelings.
Examples of life’s big decisions : marriage, career / profession, migration, vacation.
Funny real-life example : a friend J told me that her husband fluctuates between praising-in-the-form of question and complaining:
(1) "why a such a smart woman like you wanted to marry a jerk and stayed on?"
(2) "It’s a nightmare to be with you for the rest of your life, I was enticed by your physical attractions"

@~@ Most people are too preoccupied with themselves to notice our shortcomings (e.g. your pimple, your spiky hair because of having no time to comb your hair because of waking up late).

@~@ "Research has found that audiences can’t pick up on your anxiety as well as you might expect …
Other people are noticing less than you might suppose."
Blueroselady: The next time you have to deliver a public talk / give a company presentation / make a sales pitch, do not worry. Just do it!

@~@ Susan Andersen & Serena Chen, 2002: In our varied relationships, we have varying selves.

@~@ Much of our behavior is not consciously controlled but automatic and unself-conscious.
Blueroselady: Be mindful. We can choose to practice mindfulness.
Mindful breathing… Mindful eating… Mindful doing…

@~@ self-schema vs possible selves
self-schema = beliefs about self that organize & guide the procession of self-relevant information.
possible selves = images of what we dream of or dread becoming in the future.
self-schema strongly affect how we see / perceive, remember, evaluate other people & ourselves.

@~@ major negative events vs minor irritations
major negative events activate our psychological defense.
minor irritations do not activate our psychological immunity.

@~@ Role playing becomes reality.
As we enact a new role, e.g. college student, parent. salesperson, we initially feel self-conscious.
Progressively, the role playing becomes reality.
This reminds me on the message that Amy Cuddy wants us to remember in her TED talk on body language.
Fake it till you make it.
Fake it till you become it.

@~@ How do we decide if we are rich, smart, or tall?
The answer is social comparison (Festinger, 1954) in affluence, status, achievement.
Blueroselady: Many things in life (that I know of) are relative, particularly those that are measurable.
A reader’s question: "I have made a living comparing data in my job / career. Comparing has become my second nature. How can I stop comparing in life?"
Blueroselady suggestions:
# Gratitude exercises.
# Detachment exercises : Detach your emotions from the outcome of your comparisons. I hear you, it is easy to say, but challenging to do, that is why detachment is an art; for the sake of our happiness, we must practice the art of detachment.
# Mindfulness exercises : Remember that (1) social comparisons can decrease our life satisfaction. (2) 人比人气死人 (3) "There is nothing noble in being superior to some other person. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self."
# Kindness exercises : Be kind & compassionate to yourself, leave behind comparisons with others.
# Affirmations e.g. It is better to be a first rate version of yourself than a second rate version of someone else.

@~@ Children whom other people label as as gifted, hardworking or helpful tend to incorporate such ideas into their self-concepts & behavior.

@~@ Self-reliance
Self-reliant individual is celebrated in Western literature, e.g. The Iliad, The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn.

@~@ Classifying / pigeonholing / labeling cultures as solely individualist or collectivist oversimplifies.
The oversimplification is because within any culture, individualism varies from person to person (Oyserman et al, 2002).
Blueroselady: Remember not to do hasty generalization.

@~@ Interdependent self
# has a greater sense of belonging.
# is defined by social connections with family, colleagues, loyal friends.
# has many selves: self-with-parents, self-at-work, self-with-friends.
# disapproves egotism, whereas independent self disapproves conformity.
# e.g. collectivistic Asian & Third World cultures.
# persists more on tasks when they are failing because wants to meet others’ expectations (e.g Japanese)
# prioritizes WE over ME

@~@ "So far, most of psychology has been produced by psychologists in middle-class White American settings studying middle-class White American respondents."
However, there are ways of life beyond the one that each of us knows best.
Blueroselady: In other space & time context (e.g. sociocultural context), there can be different ideas & practices about how to live a meaningful life.

@~@ Tips: eat before shopping.
Gilbert & Wilson (2000) showed that hungry shoppers do more impulse buying

@~@ Why is your friend’s success can be more threatening that that of strangers?
According to Zuckerman & Jost (2001), you feel that your self-esteem is threatened.
How do people react to self-esteem threat?
High self-esteem people blame others or try harder next time.
Low self-esteem people blame themselves or give up.
According to Roy Baumeister, folks with high self-esteem are more likely to be obnoxious, to interrupt, & to talk at people rather than to talk with people.
Bonus: It is useful for parents to know that
# among sibling relationships, the threat to self-esteem is greates for an older chld with a highly capable younger brother / sister.
# many people could not escape their tough childhoods, which is a cause of low self-esteem.

@~@ Secure self-esteem
# is rooted more in feeling good about who one is than in grades, looks, affluence / money, others’ approval.
# is essential for long-term well-being.
# Blueroselady views secure self-esteem neither as high nor low self-esteem, but self-esteem in equilibrium / in balance.

@~@ self-esteem vs self-efficacy
self-esteem = if you like yourself overall
Self-efficacy = if you believe you can do something

@~@ How to be less intimated (by others) & less gullible?
# remember that personal testimonies are powerfully persuasive but they may also be wrong.

@~@ Self-serving bias?
# attribute positive outcomes to oneself (e.g. own managerial skill)
# attribute negative outcomes to other factors (e.g. a down economy)

@~@ Examples of self-serving bias
# Group members’ estimates of how much they contribute to a join task typically sum to more than 100%. For instance, husband & wife are members of a group.
# most business people see themselves as more ethical than the average business people.
# Pronin & Ross (2006) reported that we see ourselves as objective & everyone else as biased. No wonder we fight!

@~@ Feedback is best when it is TRUE & SPECIFIC.
Specific feedback e.g. You are good at maths.
General feedback e.g. You are great.
To encourage someone (e.g. children, mentees, students, subordinates), remember that specific feedback is more effective than general feedback.

@~@ To improve performance, give self-efficacy feedback instead of self-esteem feedback.
e.g. of self-efficacy feedback : You tried really hard.
e.g. of self-esteem feedback : You are really smart.

@~@ When to listen to criticism & not to listen?
David Dunning’s gentle rule: "if two people independently give you the same piece of negative feedback, you should at least consider the possibility that it might be true"

@~@ Terror management theory by Jeff Greenberg: the reality of our own death motivates us to gain recognition from our work & values, but not everyone can achieve such recognition.

@~@ Competence + perseverance = success

@~@ Success requires enough optimism to sustain hope and enough pessimism to motivate concern.

@~@ According to Jule Norem (2000), defensive pessimism can sometimes save us from the perils of unrealistic optimism.
Blueroselady: Negative emotions such as anger and pessimism are not entirely bad, we just need healthy ways to deal with them.
Tips: Whenever you feel angry, remember that the person you are hurting is yourself.

@~@ Tyranny of freedom? too many choices can lead to paralysis.
According to Barry Schwartz, individualistic modern cultures have an excess of freedom which leads to the tyranny of freedom.
# Choice may enhance regret.
# People have expressed greater satisfaction with irrevocable choices than with reversible choices. This is because when people can undo their decisions they tend to consider both the positive & negative features of the decisions they had made. When they could not undo their decisions, people tend to concentrate on the positive features & ignore the negative features. For example, people expressed more satisfaction with their marriages several decades ago when marriage was more irrevocable.

@~@ Love causes marriage, but marriage would also causes love.
Blueroselady: This hypothesis may explain why arranged marriages (in some cultures) have successfully worked and survived.

@~@ The 5:1 ratio of positive:negative activities
To sustain important relationships such as marriage and parental relationships, ensure that you strive to increase the ratio of positive to negative activities by at least 5 fold.
e.g. of positive activities : holding hands, giving a hug, lending a listening ear.
e.g. of negative activities : arguing, complaining.

More
# Book: Social Psychology. Chapter 2. DG Myers. 2012.
# Notes at the end of email

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December 26, 2013 at 3:55 am

How to live a healthy life? 17 simple tested tips

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1. Rest well. Sleep 6-8 hours daily.

2. Live a life of integrity, so that you can sleep well at night.

3. Master the art of how to stop worrying, so that you can sleep well at night.
Many years ago, I found the simple tips by Dale Carnegie help.
I have added more tips to my arsenal,
and will share about it more.

4. Know when & how to say NO to unnecessary activities / requests.

5. Remember “Those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind.
Beware of culture-driven narcissism.

6. Remember “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me
Example:
When my good friend L was serving in Students’ Union, she gave her best to serve the students as an act of gratitude.
L was from a relatively poor family but fortunately she received full scholarhsip and some living allowance, so she was highly motivated to give back to other fellow students.
Sadly, her predecessor (in Students’ Union) scolded her ‘lackey’ / ‘running dog’.
Later she realized that her predecessor was just a man who was hungry for power, loved to drink excessive alcohol, and did not care of others.
No need to care about his word.
I personally found L an inspiring leader.
She was willing to help her subordinates much more beyond what her predecessor did.

7. Pray to say your gratitude and aspirations / hope.

8. Forgive.
The most forgiving person I have ever known: Jesus.
When you want to forgive someone (but still feel the hurt inside), remember Jesus.

9. Harbor no intention to harm others.
害人之心不可有,防人之心不可无.
If you have been erred, the best revenge is success.

10. Eat more vegetables and fruit; eat less red meat.
Tips:
cook rice with some healthier choices e.g.
sweet potatoes
carrot
pumpkin

11. Eat home cooked food.
Honestly, cooking can consume a lot of time.
On Vesak Day of 2013, I spent my time from 10am – 4 pm going to shop for groceries, washing, peeling, cutting, and cooking.
Yes, I do take a time out for brunch, feeding and bathing my child.
But, it consumed 25% of my time.
My strategy to cope:
do not cook on continuous days,
if possible cook on alternate days.

12. Try your best to pass motion daily.
When the diaper of my first son was wet,
it was more difficult for him to relax and pass motion, regardless that I train him to pass motion.
That is why he loved to pass motion after I just changed his diaper.

13. Stroll / walk, breathe in fresh air @ park / natural reserves / gardens / beaches. Nature heals!
If you have a dog, you can walk your dog.

14. Reframe your perspectives of doing house chores as a form of exercises.

15. While you pursue the tangible, cherish the intangible.
At the end of the day, it is the intangible (love, happiness, health, harmony / peace) that matters.
However,
to have the intangible,
one must have the tangible : money (e.g. to travel / to learn / to buy), achievements (e.g. degree, career promotion, sales record), materials (e.g. nutritious food, warm clothings, safe home / luxurious bungalow).
Solution?
1. Prioritize.
2. Practice the art of balancing.

16. Write to yourself.
Read
http://goinswriter.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/The-Writers-Manifesto.pdf
Keep a diary / journal.
Reflect.
This helps to prioritize.

17. Create for yourself & share it to others.
My simple definition of “create” include
think of ideas.
write your ideas down.
do it (e.g. experiments / cooking / dance).
design products.
photograph your creation.
make audios of your ideas & creations (e.g. if your idea is in the form of song / poem / speech).
make videos of your ideas & creations.
make presentations (using e.g. powerpoint).
invent / innovate business ideas / business models.
the list goes on

and most importantly
share them to the world with your greatest LOVE!
Honestly, the act of creating makes me so happy.

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June 15, 2013 at 3:03 pm

Dear baby, welcome to the highly competitive world! Being creative is better than being competitive

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Dear baby

Do you know that there are courses out there that keep on telling Mommy “teach your baby or toddler [insert any of these: to Read / Math / Music]”? To accelerate the rat race, the advertisement goes “You can start when your baby is 3 months old.”

Yes, Mommy started to teach you things that Mommy thinks as necessary, such as praying, sign language, idioms, texture exercise, mirror exercise to increase self-worth / self-love and awareness of body parts, vowel exercise. You responded by happily producing sounds that Mommy still does not understand: baby language.

When Mommy told a friend, he said that Mommy is highly . competitive. However, Mommy thinks that it is good & essential to introduce you the joy of learning early in life. Since you received a lot of (second-hand) toys and was given a few new toys, Mommy will not buy you any toys. We are a frugal family and Mommy wants to save for more important things for your, e.g. healthy fruits & vegetable. However, Mommy shares with you the joy of our world through play in the nature (including parks / beaches / hills / mountains / lakes) enforced with powerpoint slides to help you remember the words, beautiful books, shopping groceries in the supermarkets / markets (Yes, the markets are your playground).

Sometimes, Mommy wonders if Mommy if a competitive person. Recently, Mommy learned from Uncle W that being creative is better than being competitive; and Mommy thinks that Mommy is a creative, instead of a competitive person. Do you know what are the differences between being competitive and being creative? Mommy will write another post in the near future.

Since you are my dearest, Mommy aspires to gives you only the Best that Mommy can afford to nurture creativity, independence, and happy learning in you since your early days.

In fact, Mommy acknowledges that Mommy learned and shared a lot to you through voice notes about many lifelong skills while being pregnant with you. That perhaps explains why you are a happy baby, as observed by Aunt Flower who helped to care for you when Mommy was too weak to carry you around.

Mommy wants you to grow in a happy, healthy, harmonious baby, toddler, child, and then adult. They said it takes 10 years to grow a tree, 100 years to nurture a human being (十年树木,百年树人).

Mommy happily takes on this challenge. Mommy feels that while nurturing you, Mommy also benefits because Mommy has a chance to learn new things that Mommy did not learn as a kid, and re-learn beautiful things that Mommy has experience.

May your life be abundant with joy, happiness and generosity.

Love,
Mommy

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March 31, 2013 at 7:18 am

How to deal with anger? 15 effective tips

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Many times, as human beings,
we get angry because of the mistakes / misunderstanding caused by ourselves and people closest to us,
e.g.
our family members (spouse, children),
our bosses and subordinates,
our colleagues,
our clients.

Imagine a spouse who does not border to help you / who only knows how to nag and nag,
after you work hard and endure stress / fatigue / insult from the morning until night;
Imagine an in-law who only knows to blame you after you expend sweat, tears, and blood taking care of your home / spouse / children (fortunately my parents-in-law are very nice);
Imagine bosses who only know to instruct, take all the credit;
Imagine subordinates who do things wrongly even though you explain many times;
Imagine clients who refuse to pay their debts to you after you deliver the products,
or whose expertise is to complain and complain.

Anger is not always bad,
anger helps us to assert our rights.

Anger, like other negative emotions and also positive emotions,
are normal and appropriate under particular dynamic spatiotemporal context / circumstances in space and time.

However,
when anger is prolonged / intense / unacknowledged,
it may lead to diseases,
which we do not want.

Then,
how to deal with anger?

1. The ART of ENDURANCE, use THICK FACE BLACK HEART.
Some people may think that being thick face is to be shameless,
because the general perception of thick face can be exemplified by an adult child refuses to work but asks money from retired parents.
Thick face that I mean here means that we must be able to endure humiliation / insult / injustice / physical & emotional pain / stress that cause our anger.
Honestly, this is not easy but not impossible.

Black heart here does not mean being ruthless to others,
but be determined enough on ourselves so that we can endure hardship and protect the weak.
Abraham Lincoln and Mahatma Gandhi are among the finest example of practitioners of thick face black heart.

2. Neither express nor suppress anger.
Both are at the end of 2 extremes.
Expressing anger harms those around you, your relationship with others.
Suppressing anger harms yourself, your health.
Then, what should you do?
ACKNOWLEDGE our emotions, I think this is a piece of advice that I learned from Thích Nhất Hạnh / tʰǐk ɲɜ̌t hɐ̂ʔɲ.

3. Realize that we are the MASTER of our EMOTION.
We have control of our own emotion,
instead of letting our emotion enslave us.
We can practice self-control,
our mind can win over our emotion.

4. IMAGINE / VISUALIZE that your problems / pains are over. Visualize your trespasser as a little baby / child. It is hard to be angry at little children.
Ask yourself, will things / people that cause your anger matter in X amount of time (e.g. 1 year, 5 years time)?
You may not bump into the person again.
You may have moved to better places / positions.

5. Use the ART of DETACHMENT.
We can care / love others, but we have to be detached from our care / love.
We can continue to care, give best advices, but separate our feeling from the outcome of our efforts.
If they do not want to listen to our advice / to receive our kindness,
we just accept their response,
no need to feel bad about it.
Do not attach our happiness to others,
i.e. do not let our happiness be dependent on others (including their thought / words / actions).

6. LEARN from difficulties / crisis.
Believe that opportunities arise out of our difficulties.
There are always things to be learned from every situation.
There are things worth fighting,
there are things that are better ignored,
e.g. the rudeness of rude salesperson / customers, the ruthless bosses.

7. Use POSITIVE THINKING. Reframe our PERSPECTIVEs. There is no failure, there is only feedback.
Be aware that our trespasser(s) may cause unhappiness transiently, but they cannot rob away our capacity to generate inner happiness (including peace of mind, wealth).

8. LOWER / have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Accept things and other people as they are.
It is hard to change other people.
To change a person may be harder than to move a mountain.
Instead of wasting time to change others,
it is better to improve ourselves.

9. Use TALKing therapy,
but you have to find a listener,
who will listen without giving advice
(sometimes when we are angry we may perceive their well-meant advice as something negative).
Do not talk to every person you meet,
because not all people can give you empathy and sympathy in every situation / circumstances,
they may perceive you as a whiner / complain king,
we may end up transferring our pain / anger to other people.
Choose whom to TALK to carefully & wisely.
Many times, I TALK to God,
because God can take our anger / frustration.
Sometimes, I TALK to my wise mentors.
They are my role models,
and I would imagine what they would do if they were in my situation.

10. Use WRITING therapy.
This is what I exactly do now. I wrote this post because I was angry, and I want to find solutions on how to deal with anger.
Then, I think that my tips / strategies may be useful to others and decide to share them with the world.
When you write, do not worry about writing style / grammar.
You can make yourself your audience.
Keep your writing in journal / diary or
you can throw / tear away,
like cleansing / declutter your problem.

11. REST & SLEEP.
Take a power nap.
When we suffer from lack of sleep, we may become cranky.

12. MEDITATE / PRAYER.
Prayer is powerful.
Prayer = talking to God.
God can patiently listen without giving comments.
God can embrace our anger.

13. BREATHing exercise.
Imagine a balloon expanding & contracting in your lower abdomen.
Siberian North Rail Road for Stop, Notice, Reflect and Respond.
Stop to take a deep breath. Taking a deep breath can really calm our minds.
Reflect why you are angry from a 3rd person perspective (neither victim nor offender).
Respond. You always have control / choice in how you are going to respond. Be the master of your emotion, instead of letting your emotion winning over you.

14. EXERCISE e.g. yoga / qigong 气功 / jogging / hiking / swimming.
Physical activity can release emotion,
because our mind, body, and soul are inter-connected.
QiGong can help us to keep a focused mind, good posture, and help us to relax.

15. Use palm-size thermometer.
When we are angry,
blood is diverted from our extreme parts of bodies to vital organs,
our fingers turn cold.
Count to ten.
1 … 2 … 3 …. 4 …. 5 … 6 … 7 … 8 … 9 … 10 …
Focus on calming down until our fingers become warm.
PS: I learned this tips from Oprah Winfrey, thank you!
See also my green old A4 notebook page 32, 129.

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2011
28 Aug: I need air cond in tropical country.
31 Jul : Graduate students are cheap labor. Ref: Ten Simple Rules for Graduate Students. Jenny Gu, Philip E. Bourne.
30 Jul : Take baby steps. Tell myself, “I can do it. It’s going to be okay”. Life by the yard is very hard. Life by the inch is a cinch.
30 Jul : Problems = opportunities in disguise.
30 Jul : I have collected 2,368 ref couple photos. Ready to be a photographer.
30 Jul : Honestly, I think MIT graduation gown is not nice with grey and red color combination. I do not mean to offense, it is just from my humble artistic point. The hat is an integration of bakery and surgeon.
27 Jul : OMG, I am addicted to browsing wedding photos. But, I will be a photographer.
25 Jul : Today somebody asked me if I am from Korea. Are you from Japan? China? Korea? Taiwan?
24 Jul : Mum, Sis, Bro, and Bro-in-law-in-progress were taking just few days ago. Sigh… My condolences to the family of the casualties.
24 Jul : A thing that ambitious women can learn from Wendi Deng is to protect her man, fight tooth and nail to secure a voting position for her children in the family trust.
23 Jul : mini shoot of sunset, walk to reservoir, dinner with family (mango dessert), I am a blessed babe.
22 Jul : I am grateful for my lunch of Hakka tea rice.
22 Jul : A girl thinks that I am from Australia based on my English accent.
21 Jul : still remember the shoe shot with IH, he later bought the mouse to make the story alive. I like that kind of images with story telling.
17 Jul : Today homely: Do not judge others.
17 Jul : I think my facial expressions are quite limited, ranging from sweet smiling, cute laugh with big eyes, and sad faces. It is ok, I can still take photos on other subjects.
16 Jul : I want to learn public speaking (like LC1987), dancing, photography (like DW). I want to be a leader of myself!
16 Jul : Travel through photo websites and facebook
16 Jul : Watched a clip from Jyoou no Kyoushitsu or The Queen’s Classroom. Lesson: be curious and learn forever.
14 Jul : Do not worry. The answer is Jesus.
14 Jul : I should blog and twitter more in Chinese Mandarin. To reach out and touch more lives.
13 Jul : blessing of the day : quaker oats apple cinnamon cookies
12 Jul : How to be a good doctor? humility
12 Jul : Cecilia Cheung has a rich, powerful godfather : Mr Chen Yushu (70), King of Cloisonne, a one time Chinese teacher and writer.
8 Jul : I realize that I may not be the smartest at work, but I still have other positive traits : determination and discipline.
7 Jul : I am tired of taking 2 x 1 hour 20 min train to & from work. How? Find a job nearer to where I live.
6 Jul : A very beautiful lady from where I spent part of my young age, offer me a seat on train, by squeezing with her sisters.
6 Jul : Write with a reader in mind, talk with a listener in mind
5 Jul : Almost forget my laptop after a class. Be careful!
5 Jul : window-shop an art shop. Inspired, yet must focus on my photography pursuit
5 Jul : When you see a person without a smile, give them yours.
26 Jun : Mother Teresa: It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start. Inspiration from a mass at St Joseph.
26 Jun : When we recognize the God-given dignity in human dignity, there can be no racial or religious supremacy or one trying to control the other.
26 Jun : Josef Ackermann : stay focused on your goals. Learn from criticism, but do not let it distract or slow you down.
26 Jun : Thomas Hoving asked, “What do I need to be a professional in art history?” His professor replied “Independent income!” Blueroselady: the truth also goes for artists and scientists.
25 Jun : Let us cherish, preserve and uphold the sacredness and dignity of all human life, regardless of race, creed or religion.
25 Jun : Winston Churchill once said “We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.”
22 Jun : All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them. Galileo Galilei.
22 Jun : You will not get the time for vacation, you have to make the time.
21 Jun : What have u learned in your graduate school? The ability to answer Qs (that matter / are important) and to question answers ; technical, analytical, managerial skills. Thanks Alanna!
19 Jun : A friend who went to Portugal with me on msn : Determination Discipline.
19 Jun : Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. Mother Teresa.
17 Jun : 21st century, what thing is the most important? HARMONY. 非诚勿扰
17 Jun : green = money ; green = nature
17 Jun : try to love people, however unsuccessfully
17 Jun : I aspire to make pictures as beautiful as those made by mentor BG of America.
15 Jun : evolution theory : men look for attractive women while women look for successful men.
15 Jun : men place looks (of women) the most important trait,before kindness and a lively personality. soft skin, full-looking lips and colourful cheeks. attractiveness = fertility.
15 Jun : gratitude = thankfulness = appreciative
15 Jun : XL is reading a leadership book.
15 Jun : Education and knowledge are particularly important. Otherwise you’d never have a chance to go to a good university, get a good job and find a good husband. Wendi Deng, 3rd wife of media magnate Rupert Murdoch.
14 Jun : Boss asked interviewee: are you a quick learner? Interviewee answered YES immediately.
14 Jun : Privacy threats and fatigue has led millions to shut down their Facebook accounts. People get terribly excited about something new and after a while the novelty wears off.
12 Jun : What do you want to be, haigui (sea turtles), haiou (seagulls), or haidai (seaweed)? Definitely not haidai, but haiou sounds great, being able to make worldwide contributions.
12 Jun : The salvation of man is through love and in love. I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still may know bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in THE CONTEMPLATION OF HIS BELOVED. Viktor Frankl
11 Jun : like Shara Lin 林逸欣 music (simultaneous piano, violin, guzheng) and next-door-girl look
10 Jun : It is opportunity and not income that we should strive to equalize.
10 Jun : poverty = less access to family planning
9 Jun : unity != uniformity
9 Jun : How to join Board of Directors of respected institutions?
8 Jun : Call me a non-IT-savvy, but I found that the black white page of Twitter on my Firefox and Chrome pretty annoying! I am tweeting on my blog now.
8 Jun : In the progress of transferring 530 previous tweets. Time for revision.
8 Jun : Only when one has visited the foreign land, one comes to appreciate home land.
8 Jun : Jun 7, 2011: miss Dad & Mum so much till I cry. They wish that I am healthy, to be healthy, I must minimize crying.
8 Jun : Drive safely – think of your loved ones. Act safely – think of your loved ones.
8 Jun : Within 1st hour of your baby life, immediately hug and breastfeed her.
8 Jun : What to do when your woman is angry? 哄 by Teacher Le Jia of FeiChengHuRao.
8 Jun : Blessing of Jun 5, 2011: love eat drink pray airport
8 Jun : Blessing of Jun 5, 2011: Dad helped to remove fallen tree, a hazard for road users.
8 Jun : I must not eat too much vinegar.
8 Jun : Mum: must relax my shoulder. Health is the most important!
8 Jun : Ascension mass 2011: we must desire for eternal life.
8 Jun : Ajahn Brahm childhood has to share room with brother, being in the same room provided opportunity for love to grow.
8 Jun : Romantic love is only the beginning of true love.
8 Jun : We may not always succeed but we do not stop trying.
8 Jun : When in stress / conflict, what would your role models would do?
3 Jun : Blessing of June 2nd, 2011: Ascension mass, Japanese dinner beef, salmon + roe stone rice, macha Royce. Thank you my lover!
1 Jun : Let the universe judge injustice
1 Jun : All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.
1 Jun : Time is like an arrow, always going in 1 direction – the future. Think of a vector. No reverse!
1 Jun : knowing != understanding
1 Jun : simple != easy
1 Jun : When life gets complicated, it is the simple things that stand out.
1 Jun : Blessing on 1st day of June 2011: lunch with a lover after bank transaction.
1 Jun : Beijing jiaozi, Shanghai xiaolongbao, onion lamian. water chestnut cake.
1 Jun : Blessing on last day of May 2011: delicious sweet slightly spicy fish tail. Thank you God!
1 Jun : Not all who wander are lost. Tolkien.

31 May : We need not wait until we have a perfect institution to make change happen – Noeleen Heyzer.
31 May : You are the writer of your own destiny.
31 May : An interior designer guessed that I am in our 30s. Beauty maintenance and upgrading please! Shall I start wear brighter dresses?
30 May : Riding train xp: some people talked with annoying tones to the phone, they annoyed other passengers too. Lesson:Talk kindly, even when angry
30 May: I feel very free when I’m riding with the wind blowing against my face.
29 May : Define yourself from within, rather than by people’s opinions or by comparisons to others.
29 May : In order to be a good learner, one has to be a good teacher.
29 May : What do I do most time? analysis and synthesis. What I wish to do more? love and share.
29 May : What is the meaning of life? We can only answer to life by answering for our own life. Frankl.
29 May : Learned LOMO today, happy! Dreamy and Surreal. As long as we are passionate and committed, nothing is impossible to be learned.
27 May : May 2011: 1665 references
27 May : Our work is cited in a report by a lab of US Dept of Energy. Motivated!
27 May : Parents who expect their children to repay their kindness are prone to disappointment.
27 May : Giovanni Pau: I learn different things from my students, from human behavior to different technical things that apply to my work, very rewarding.
27 May : As a teacher, you learn from students and reconnect.
27 May : A UCLA department scholar is allowed o receive both his undergraduate and master degree concurrently. Be a department scholar!
27 May : Art is something so long to be learned, and life is so short! Goethe.
27 May : Be a big-hearted, beautiful, brainy lady.
27 May : When I am in my 50s, 60s, I want to be like Dr LN who looks like in her 30s. She was born in the same place as me.
27 May : The same Holy Spirit who galvanized Paul lives within you.
27 May : Every read book must contribute to at least 1 breakfast! Gambatte!
27 May : spring 2011: must learn GPU computing!
27 May : Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta, please pray for us.
24 May : summer 2011: I love my work place. There are many things that I have learnt. I am given plenty of opportunities to make contributions.
24 May : summer 2011: I learn broadly (analysis, people skills, leadership, diplomacy, writing) and deeply (my focused studies). Thank you!
24 May : If you have vision, don’t take advices of people that say you can’t do it.
24 May : We are indeed ignorant. 2010: I did not know what Sciences Po is. 2011: Wow! It may be the raison d’etre of many political sciences students
21 May : I love red wine. For photo shake, I must minimize red wine intake during formal dinner / lunch. Sigh! The price of beauty
20 May : Blessing of May 20, 2011: saw a beautiful lady on the train. Milk-like skin, long brown hair, sunglasses. Akin to an elegant Japanese lady!
20 May : If you want something you have never had before, you have to do something you have never done before.
20 May : The mentality of the middle to lower classes in general who perceive themselves as “fated” to remain as they are must be challenged and altered.
20 May : Must Know. Must Do. Must Teach. http://www.asean100forum.com
20 May : How often do you let superstition ruin your life? I only believe in positive superstision.
20 May : [Count my blessings]: KK original, KK green tea (bought in Narita), KK cherry / strawberry, KK orange, dark choco (UK).
20 May : Craving for Kit Kat! Wanted: KK melon.
17 May : Those who keep the peace of their inner selves in the midst of the tumult of modern city are immune from nervous diseases. Dr Alexis Carrel
17 May : Love Teresa Teng singing: seven parts sweetness, three parts tears.
17 May : Love Teresa Teng singing: like weeping and pleading, but with strength, capable of drawing in and hypnotizing listeners
16 May : [My blessings]: I have been to Austria, Slovenia, Italy, Switzerland, Germany, France, Liechtenstein. Commonalities? stretched by The Alps.
15 May : I am a lovely friend. I remember and wish you on your birthday.
15 May : I am a lovely friend. I share generously with you (experience, small treats, e-books).
15 May : I am a lovely friend. I can take photos for you with the quality akin to professionals.
15 May : I am a lovely friend. I am a good listener and keep your secrets.
15 May : I am a lovely friend. I have tonnes of motivational stories to excite you!
15 May : I am a lovely friend. I do what I promise to do, I admit what I could not do.
15 May : Sincere apologies are deposits, but repeated apologies are interpreted as insincere, resulting in withdrawals. Mentor SC.
15 May : Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values.
15 May : Habits 1, 2 and 3 (Be Proactive, Begin With The End In Mind, Put First Things First) deal with self mastery.
15 May : We must achieve independence before we can choose interdependence. Mentor SC.
15 May : It is our fears, beliefs and habits that stop us.
14 May : 害人之心不可有,防人之心不可无
14 May : Swan babies in the spring of River C. I miss you all! Spring memory 🙂
14 May : One stranger found, one friend made.
14 May : Seeing something for the last time is almost as good as the 1st. Mentor BS.
14 May : Joy is Everywhere; It is in the Earth’s green covering of grass; In the blue serenity of the Sky. Rabindranath Tagore, Joy. Mentor BS.
14 May : “We are what we think. All that we are arises. With our thoughts. With our thoughts, We make our world.” BUDDHA
12 May : Trust your crazy ideas. Mentor Doris Taylor Minnesota. artificial heart regrowth.
11 May : Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited but imagination encircles the world.
11 May : The incubation period for a research worker is about 4 years, so it requires 8 years before the 3rd generation of research workers appears.
11 May : Bulletin of the Atomic Scientists Oct 1973. That is 70s report, can we accelerate it now?
11 May : As long as you are going to be thinking anyway, think BIG. Mentor YH.
11 May : Knowledge is limited but imagination encircles the world. Mentor YH.
11 May : Change your thoughts and you change your world. Mentor YH.
11 May : Only I can change my life, no one can do it for me. Mentor YH.
11 May : Truth is encountered when the heart is open to a larger reality than the mind can grasp. Inspired from Lk 24:31
11 May : Unhealthy eating habits, sedentary lifestyles, environmental pollution are causing chronic illnesses on a pandemic scale. How can we solve?
11 May : it is not the unique products relative to competitors that brings success
11 May : rather it is the firm’s ability to meet the unique requirements of customers that bring success.
11 May : Honoring the past, envisioning the future of innovation. Mentor MIT
10 May : Rejuvenate education so that it again keeps up with technology. More college for more people.
10 May : 4 aspects of merits: talent, attitude, hard work, moral character. May God helps us to cultivate all these.
8 May : Only through contribution that you will find a sense in your career and life. WU Zhiqiang, chief planner of Shanghai World Expo 2010.
8 May : 千里之行, 始於足. a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step
8 May : 世有伯乐,然后有千里马。千里马常有,而伯乐不常有。
8 May : Here was something they had never seen before, and it filled them with fear. “It is I. Do not be afraid.” (John 6:20)
7 May : To learn and share COMPLETELY, CONTINUOUSLY, and ENERGETICALLY
5 May : You don’t have to carry around shame over past sins. Take them to Jesus and ask him to set you free.
5 May : Nothing is too small—or too big—for God to tackle.
5 May : God’s love for us is our foundation.
5 May : St. Francis of Assisi taught that the more you give, the more you receive in return.
5 May : Our earthly treasures would eventually be worthless. Blueroselady: we carry nothing to this world, we will leave bringing nothing with us.
5 May : Investing is a good and prudent thing.
5 May : Money can enhance our relationship with God: to care for the poor, to help evangelistic efforts.
5 May : Money can give us a false sense of security and cause us to be selfish and sin against other people.
5 May : His mercy is available to all people.
5 May : I am on FIRE with enthusiasm. Thank you Russia, Switzerland, and Korea!
4 May : No pen, I used my eyebrow pencil to write. wasteful? extravagant? creative? I choose to be creative!
3 May : In order to EARN a lot, you must LEARN a lot 1st. Replace WANT TO with MUST DO.
2 May : If you can find people who think that what you’re doing is great, they’re going to do everything in their power to make it a success.
2 May : Wanted: someone who is global, successful, constructive / creative, and open with a strong desire to create value for society, self-develop.
2 May : Education shouldn’t be abt shrinking the world so it fits into your mind; it should be ab expanding our mind so that it could fit the world.
2 May : True Success in life is not measured by how much money you make, but how much of a difference you make in the life of others.
2 May : Your formal education will make you make a living; Your personal education will make you a fortune.
2 May : money, my look or even my friends, can come and go. never be able to be taken away: KNOWLEDGE, SKILL, and EXPERIENCE. Mentor MR.
2 May : When I run, I feel God’s presence. Eric Liddell.
2 May : Relationship is abt making choices: to emphasize and concentrate on our partner’s faults or on our partner’s positive qualities. Mentor MR.
2 May : By sharing, you also give others an opportunity to learn from your experience at the same time. Mentor AK.
2 May : Whenever we share something, we tend to inject our personal experience and thoughts into the knowledge. Mentor AK.
2 May : All careers and all jobs exist to create value and to make other people’s lives better. Mentor AK.
2 May : Spend time with people who inspire you to be a better husband, wife, father or mother. Mentor AK.
2 May : Stay away from friends who poison your mind and your soul. Mentor AK.
2 May : “Friends make you or they break you” Mentor AK.
2 May : Lesson 1: Success Does Not Happen By Chance…But By Choice. Lesson 2: Success Can Be Learnt.
2 May : All weddings are similar, but every marriage is different.
2 May : When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you look even better.
2 May : Vision, but without Action, it’s nothing. Bible says, Faith without Works is dead.
2 May : “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve” Napoleon Hill
2 May : You cannot always have happiness, but you can always give happiness.
2 May : Be the best that you can be wherever you are!
2 May : When I educate myself, I am basically investing in myself.
2 May : I believe my life is a journey of learning more about myself and about the world around me.
2 May : The more you give, the more you’ll receive.
2 May : ABC of divine mercy. Divine Mercy A – Ask for His Mercy. B – Be merciful. C – Completely trust in Jesus.
2 May : money is NOT the MOST important thing in life; however, money can affect the most important things in life.
2 May : 3C: Capital, Contacts and Capabilities.
2 May : Learning to love yourself, It is the greatest love of all
2 May : If your life were a bank acct, how many daily deposits and withdrawals do you make 2 May : to and from the acct of mind, body, spirit and feelings?
2 May : What is the worst thing that can happen if I don’t do this?”
2 May : Confidence makes you beautiful and beauty makes you confident!
2 May : I aspire to meet the needs of my lover in terms of spiritual, emotional, physical, social, and security.
2 May : There is a purpose why God created man and woman differently, i.e. to compliment each other.
2 May : God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!
1 May : Don’t follow the fashion. Choose things that suit you, and let it be evergreen. Mentor GL, a beauty queen.
1 May : In the real world, external image is still important. Mentor GL, a beauty queen.
1 May : You must 1st have a passion to want to look good. Mentor GL, a beauty queen.
1 May : Beauty has an advantage, it can open doors for you, but beyond that, it is the substance that matters. Mentor GL, a beauty queen.
1 May : Students create the prestige of an academic institution. My students create the prestige of me as a teacher and motivator.
1 May : (VIP) keep your dreams and imagination.
1 May : “Some men see things as they are and ask why. I dream things that never were and ask, why not?” Robert Kennedy.
1 May : Einstein “Imagination is more powerful than knowledge.” Recent travel opportunities, which I am grateful for, have enhanced my imagination.
1 May : Inner beauty is achieved through harmony of body, mind and soul. Staying fit, healthy, cheerful and joyful helps us to remain beautiful.
1 May : To get to where you want, you have to start where you are now.
1 May : We have to understand that SUCCESS comes in varied forms for individuals.
1 May : Each girl has her own make-up, her own purpose, intentions and goals in life.
1 May : My life ambition is to bring HOPE and HAPPINESS to all that have come in contact with me.
1 May : Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others, It is because we are different that each of us is special.
1 May : And no matter how bad my life is, I chose to stay positive and see life on the brighter side.
1 May : I chose to live with high-altitude attitudes filled with optimism, enthusiasm, and excitement.
1 May : Failure comes before Success, even in the Dictionary

30 Apr: Actually, really knowing someone doesn’t mean anything. People change. A person may like pineapple today and something else tomorrow. WKW.
30 Apr : My Nikon seems to be good only for outdoor day shooting. Any suggestions ? Thank you 🙂
30 Apr : It seems that Nikon is good for scenery, but Canon is better for portrait. What should I do with my Nikon? Bring her to travel more!
30 Apr : Our stakeholders: bosses, clients, subordinates, masters, family members, friends. Many people who we have to make happy, will try our best!
30 Apr : My aspiration: To respond ASAP with kindness to my stakeholders. Thanks to the property agents who do not bother to reply us.
30 Apr : My aspiration: to serve my boss, clients, subordinates, family, and friends with a smiling face of tourism professionals. Gentle, listening.
30 Apr : Every girl wants to feel and look like a princess on her wedding day, yet not getting a drastic makeover even the groom might not recognise
30 Apr : Aspire to learn make-up as beautiful as brides.
30 Apr : Who is the most beautiful woman of the day? The bride!
24 Apr : Love more, hate nothing, fear less.
24 Apr : Focus on your possibilities, not on your own limitations.
24 Apr : Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgetten, never let it disappear. – John Lennon
24 Apr : Salad ideas: pumpkin, beetroot, avocado.
Apr 20, 2011: recently very tired. Slept on train. Health is very important.
23 Apr : Not as I will, but as You will.
22 Apr : Every man I meet is my superior in some way, In that, I learn of him. 三人行,必有我师。
22 Apr : The great aim of education is not knowledge but action.
22 Apr : saving $, long term planning, appreciating the real value of the simple things in life.
22 Apr : Passion can inspire and motivate.
19 Apr : Brand’s ads: stress and lack of rest can potentially harm our liver. Must have enough sleep!
19 Apr : GF is > 373K, hot! Blueroselady is . Colleague whom I think very talented is going to resign as he cannot see future here.
29 Mar : stomachache, must not eat drink cold for time being.
29 Mar : Browsed through countless wedding photos. Collected 518: inclusive those that I like and dislike for ref.
28 Mar : Q: Where your drives come from? A: Does it have to come from anybody?
27 Mar : Just adapt and make the best of situation.
27 Mar : It’s important to make efficient use of time when you’re at the mercy of people and situations outside your control.
27 Mar : Lesson from having beautiful eyebrows: it is not easy to get things RIGHT, and to deal with the things LEFT. For fun! Need to practise more
27 Mar : You have to constantly learn, upgrade and reinvent yourself to stay motivated and passionate.
27 Mar : A good salesperson should listen more than talk.
27 Mar : Do not like to wear make up, esp with humid weather. But make up made women look beautiful / bonita / mei / chio / kawaii!
27 Mar : Eyes are tired staring at computer. I want job that allows me to see > greenery
27 Mar : Advances are made by answering questions. Discoveries are made by questioning answers.
26 Mar : Achievement of the day: I managed to thread my upper lips.
25 Mar : Fluorescent ice cream. Who dare to eat? Who want to eat?
23 Mar : 人为什么要活着?What do people live for? DREAM. Thanks to 5 inspiring Taiwanese old chaps!
23 Mar : Facebook-ing. Search inspirations for wedding photography. A Burmese friend moved to NYC.
23 Mar : Too much of seeing kissing wedding photos. Better ideas please!
22 Mar : Why do I have to always give in to others? To my parents, siblings, lover, boss. To stay positive! Kind people are loved by God.
20 Mar : Listening to 春闺梦 now.
20 Mar : Beijing memory: I will surely return to Beijing in the future, for a promise! 2011: my promise is fulfilled! Thank you Lord.
Beijing memory: HuTong people playing table tennis or swimming at the shimmering lake, golden and pink sunset are unforgettable scenes
Beijing memory: Red trishaws, many bicycles, willow trees, Hu-tong, people having leisure walks with their family and dogs.
Beijing memoir: I saw beautiful girls wearing qi pao or skirts and round hat riding on bicycles, like in movies. Tsinghua!
Beijing memoir: We wrote our wishes and stored it in between bricks. It was so fun, keeping our secrets in Simatai.
Beijing memoir: Lakes, shimmering color of sunshines, blue sky, white cloud, and our imagination brought us to blue eagle clouds.
Beijing memoir: this is the GREAT CHINA, with the GREAT WALL. Simatai.
Beijing memoir: the Summer P man was so knowledgable, yet everyday still have to ride long distance to go back to Tsinghua. What a life!
Beijing memory: woke up at 3.30a.m to watch flag raising ceremony.
Beijing memoir: we were at the TianAnMen Square on the eve of June 4th few years ago.
Beijing memoir: I love Bi Luo Chun so much
Beijing memoir: 娶妻莫恨无良媒,书中有女颜如玉。I still prefer the real 玉女, than merely those of books.
Beijing memoir: I think I love Beijing
Beijing memoir: Mr. Cheng nowadays there’s lots of great masters, professors, but we don’t know if their qualities correlate to titles.
Beijing memoir: scientists are akin to Beijing opera singers.
Beijing memoir: watching opera is not for self-entertainment, but for betterment of human beings quality.
Beijing memoir: The best comment I received today is I am gifted to capture nice angle.
Beijing memoir: Nicole is getting married in 2 days, a happy woman. I am getting married too! Thank you for giving me a Prince Charming.
Beijing memoir: I saw Beijing Hotel, a famous one, in Tian An Men. 4 years later, I am a VIP staying at Beijing Hotel. So grateful.
Beijing memoir: Never had I thought that I would follow Lin footpath in the pursuit of knowledge. God, thank you!
Beijing memoir: Paid respect to Wen Yi Duo, Lao Se, and Lin Wei Yin @ Babaoshan.
Beijing memoir: night wind blowing on my face, on taxi back through highway.
Beijing memoir: Master: Photography is about capturing the light, which makes a picture speaks.
Beijing memoir: I think I should think more positive, I don’t have to expect too much from others, but I myself have to be better!
Beijing memoir: Temple of Heaven. An old granny lent me her kite to play for a while. They are so friendly. Chinese people are so friendly.
Beijing memoir: Liulichang ~ delicate cutting paper art, brushes, fans and kites, remind me on the movie the Blue Kite.
Beijing memoir: master said that rainy atmosphere may also good for photography, people in raincoat, reflection on water.
Beijing memoir: What Tsinghua students do for dates? study together.
20 Mar : Fr PK: let us use our time wisely. Let us be constantly alert of our final destination. Let us not be too attached to this world.
20 Mar : Mentor of 1st half of 2006 project: I don’t care about what other people think of me. Blueroselady: no way we can make all people happy.
20 Mar : Be careful of ppl who think: 女人..无所谓正派..正派是因为受到的诱惑不够..; 男人..无所谓忠诚..忠诚是因为背叛的筹码不够..
20 Mar : An attitude of extraordinary service
20 Mar : Tokyo: the difference between the best scientists and mediocre scientists: the best never take breaks.
20 Mar : Think far and act fast. Know what you want and really chase it.
19 Mar : OMG. Our priest told us: of course not everytime that penis goes into vagina, there will be a baby, or else we will be like pigs.
16 Mar : there’s definitely something good about everyone, it is just that we might not have noticed it yet. Politically correct?
16 Mar : price does not/need not equal value. So say BYE to branded stuff.
15 Mar : Live as if we were to die tomorrow. Learn as if we were to live forever.
15 Mar : Learning is like rowing upstream, if we do not advance, we will fall backwards.
15 Mar : Diligence, perseverance, respect, humility.
15 Mar : Education is the best lifelong asset that parents can give to their children.
15 Mar : keep on learning new skills throughout my lives because this is just the beginning of my long journey.
15 Mar : As the saying goes, do also die, don’t also die. So why not do your best and then die?
15 Mar : Our achievements are only limited by our dreams!
15 Mar : I want to improve my English, to have opportunity to work with people from different backgrounds globally, to intercross disciplines.
15 Mar : willingness to undergo transformation and desire to gain global experience
15 Mar : In our daily life, we practice reducing, reusing, and recycling.
15 Mar : The happiest moment in my life is when I went to the mountains beaches, staring @ the stunning scenes & capturing those through my lenses.
15 Mar : Arts such as visual art, literature, music and movies, are universal throughout the human race.
14 Mar: Start everyday with a smile 🙂
14 Mar : I always tell myself it is up to me to feel that I am an alien or I am a unique individual, who can add colors to others’ life.
14 Mar : Be strict with yourself, but be benevolence towards others.
14 Mar : Love your enemy. But don’t forget he is not your friend. Paulo Coelho.
14 Mar : Now, better not to go to Japan. If you need to go to Japan: wear thick clothes.
13 Mar : Love wisteria かんざし kanzashi (发棒)!
13 Mar : Learnt how to make bow hair. Cute! Happy! Thank you Lord
13 Mar : Please pray for people in Japan and Pacific.
13 Mar : Inhale OLBAS OIL to relieve my blocked nose.
12 Mar : COMPLIMENTS are a big form of flirting. Say something nice about how well he dresses, or how good of a listener he is.
9 Mar : To marry trust, one must be a widow of certainty.
9 Mar : People who are average in one job can become stars in another.
9 Mar : Pay attention to what your partner is really saying.
9 Mar : Don’t get dragged into a battle of egos. Just smile and let them think they are right!
9 Mar : 生命的偉大在於他的微小; 生命的力量在於他的脆弱; 生命的永恆在於他的短暫
8 Mar : A lot of the advice we receive from others is good advice that we foolishly reject.
8 Mar : A lot of the advice we receive from others is bad advice that we foolishly accept.
8 Mar : We don’t just treasure our memories; we ARE our memories.
6 Mar : “Science is a wonderful thing if one does not have to earn one’s living at it.” — Albert Einstein
6 Mar : People do not care about us. This is not because people are mean or hurtful, but simply because PEOPLE are mostly FOCUSED ON THEMSELVES.
6 Mar : To do, we have to learn. To learn, we have to read.
6 Mar: 钱再多也有花完的时候。有本事就走遍天下,不偷不抢,就靠本事。 From the King of Masks.
6 Mar : Always surround ourselves with successful happy people. Those people’s attributes will become a part of us.
6 Mar : the THANKFUL HEART is always close to the RICHES of the UNIVERSE.
6 Mar : Happiness is a state of mind. Happiness is a habit. We must choose happiness.
6 Mar : By praying together, we stay together.
5 Mar : We must be VERY CAREFUL to give our subconscious only those suggestions that HEAL, BLESS, ELEVATE, and INSPIRE us in all our ways.
5 Mar : 微笑露一点. 理由少一点. 做事多一点. 脾气小一点. 行动快一点. 干活细一点. 嘴巴甜一点.说话轻一点. 脑子活一点. 胆子大一点. 自信多一点. 最后还有一点, 就是,做人善良一点.
5 Mar : We are ALIVE. We can feel good for NO REASON AT ALL!
5 Mar : Happiness comes from within.
5 Mar : True belief in God does not put God to the test, even when we do not see the light at the end of the tunnel.
5 Mar : The first road to God is prayer, the second is joy.
5 Mar : Learning something means coming into contact with a world of which you know nothing. In order to learn, you must be HUMBLE
5 Mar : Keep on perfecting skin. That’s how the professional do it, because face will eventually become oily and it does not look nice.
5 Mar : As an employee or subordinate, we can only be “low” (low-profile, don’t compete with them. if you are better than them, don’t show it.
5 Mar : Ma Ma said to An Qi, “If I had to hate and berate someone every day I wake up, life would be that much more tedious.”
5 Mar : You never know what will happen to you when you achieve a little fame.
5 Mar : “Buy land. They’ve stopped making it,” Mark Twain.
5 Mar : Today’s work will prepare us for tomorrow’s opportunities.
5 Mar : “There is no security in life, only opportunity.” Mark Twain
5 Mar : 24-12-09 Mass sermon highlights that we are to be hopeful, hopeful because of Jesus’ love.
5 Mar : Learn from Corbis (1st 20 pages). Keyword “couples”.
4 Mar : No matter how senior or successful we are, we can project an image of being bored, aloof and unfriendly if we send out the wrong signals.
4 Mar : STAY POSITIVE. Don’t worry about the past or the future.
3 Mar : Never argue, demean, or shout at someone.
3 Mar : . The process of criticism SHOULD BEGIN WITH PRAISE and HONEST APPRECIATION.
3 Mar : Said business school ads: “The Oxford experience: lasts you a lifetime”. Really?
3 Mar : Choice is not an goal in itself.
3 Mar : Renata Salecl: the search for the perfect partner is likely to leave 1 lonely in old age: tolerance & resilience are better.
3 Mar : The MORE $ u have, the MORE choice u have. The more CHOICEs u have, the happier u are.
3 Mar : Julius Baer: private banking group from Swiss, with 120 years of tradition.
3 Mar : Onsi Sawiris. Orascom.
3 Mar : What do a Swiss ski resort, an airbase in Afghanistan, a Nigerian fertiliser plant and North Korea’s only mobile phone network hv in common?
3 Mar : Tibet is the site of possibly the fastest case of human evolution through natural selection is the history of mankind.
3 Mar : How to balance rival interests? Learn from the al Saud kings?
3 Mar : Deutsche Bank: best global investment bank 2010
3 Mar : Location. Location. Location.
2 Mar : admire panda who can still stay calm and focused on work in spite of being back-stabbed.

27 Feb: Live your life as simply as you are.
27 Feb: Money doesn’t create man but it is the man who creates money.
27 Feb: Don’t get flattered by cheap praises; don’t be sad by criticisms.
27 Feb: When we are taking photographs, we should think that they are our respects to beautiful sceneries created by God.
27 Feb: When we are taking photographs, we should think that they are our love letter to our beloved ones.
27 Feb: O God, help me all day every day to look on the bright side of things, and to see the best in people.
27 Feb: It’s always hard everywhere, you just try your best.
27 Feb: Losing everything is not the end of world. Learnt from Christina Dodwell talk.
27 Feb: It’s more important to be doing the right things than doing things right.
26 Feb : Took ~350 photos in a day. Tired
19 Feb : Tough times don’t last, tough people do.
19 Feb : It’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.
16 Feb : loves talented guitarist Sungha Jung.
Online lectures / studying materials: http://academicearth.org/
Be indefatigable
11 Feb : Money should never change one’s values… Making money is only a report card.
10 Feb : ASSOCIATION – CONCENTRATION – REPETITION are the 3 chief allies of memory!
7 Feb : What other people think of you is none of your business. Mentor PC, author of Alchemist.
8 Feb : These four – Worry, Fear, Hate, and Jealousy – are the ravages of good health. Your body and mind must both be right to be healthy.
3 Feb : Gardening came to Japan in the 6th century with Chinese culture and Buddhism, but gardening is long lost in China.

30 Jan : Learning about cherry blossom (sakura). Beautiful, yet a symbol of impermanence of life. Cherish them while they are still around.
29 Jan : I cannot believe that my Darling is so win-liking.
Why human beings like to win?
27 Jan : Should I look for a mentor from Insead after England? Advices are appreciated
27 Jan : Share my Portugal photos with a friend (sometimes a foe) who will visit there soon. Photos and videos can bring back happy memory.
27 Jan : May peace prevail on earth. Goi Foundation. Thank you!
27 Jan : How to reduce carbon footprint? Buy and consume less. Hans Tammemagi.
22 Jan : To those to whom much has been given, much is expected.
money is only a tool – use it but do not let it use you.
21 Jan : How to remove google ads from my wordpress?
9 Jan : Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.
2 Jan : Our greatest glory is not never failing, but in rising up everytime we fail. Ralph Waldo Emerson.

2010
31 Dec: I wish one day I could read stories to orphan, be kind to others, doing God’s will
27 Dec : Grown by nature, developed by science. Grown by altruism, developed by capitalism.
21 Dec : Caught 2 fishes in my dream. Dear mum said it is a good one.
14 Dec : People are happy to help, but only when one asks at an appropriate time.
14 Dec : Ask for help and ask early. Even when one thinks that all will be well, ask anyway.
14 Dec : People often get smart by pushing themselves hard and surrounding themselves with others doing the same.
14 Dec : Life isn’t fair, except when it is. Life isn’t fair and we will all move on to productive mindsets when we abandon our quest for fairness.
14 Dec : Don’t follow your mentors, follow your mentors’ mentors.
14 Dec : A McKinsey expression: the happiest consultants have one foot out the door.
slow to anger, quick to forgive
13 Dec : Education isn’t just about teaching children to read and write, it’s about teaching them lessons for life.
12 Dec : Have a good Sunday, God blesses everyone!
11 Dec : If we have a dream, we should not waste our energies explaining why.
4 Dec : In Sep-Dec 2010, I work 7 days a week. I deserve holidays in 2011!
4 Dec : 博爱calligraphy by Dr Sun Yat-Sen.
4 Dec : How to prepare for a dinner with colleagues? Darling advices: ask Q, listen.

29 Nov : 助人为乐、知足长乐、自得其乐.
28 Nov : Funny dream: a pink hair lady helped me to repair my bike. She has to finish her thesis, yet she still go for drinking session.
28 Nov : Colleagues are at the same time friends and enemies. We are to be helpful, forgiving to them. We must not bad-mouth, but good-mouth them.
25 Nov : Money Making Recipe (Hong-kong Drama). Buy stocks of the company that you are familiar with. Venturing to China. Sounds so Lynch.
20 Nov : When we are young, we spend all our health chasing wealth and when we are old, we spend all our wealth to stay healthy
19 Nov : Not feeling well. Pray and rest at home. May get a stomach flu.
18 Nov : Blessing of the day: Hong Kong wife biscuit without flying to HK. Dinner of Santouka ramen. Thank you Lord!
17 Nov : Admire Dong Mingzhu
17 Nov : Perseverance!
17 Nov : 活到老,学到老.
17 Nov : I hate facebook, perhaps I should deactivate it permanently :(. My mentor asked me to work.
17 Nov : God, we are so sinful that we don’t even know what we wished for. Give us what you think is the best for us.
17 Nov : I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was duty. I acted, and behold, duty was joy.
14 Nov : My boss said that he has 500 things to do. The art of talking big seems worth learning.
11 Nov : Intrepid Baltic will see Helsinki, Tallinn, Riga, Curonian Spit, Vilnius, Aukstaitija National Park, Warsaw, Berlin. Dreaming to be there 🙂
Wants to see Baltic. Intrepid has a tour (excluding inbound flight to Helsinki and outbound flight from Berlin) costs GBP 1540+Euro 400.
10 Nov : Motingya = fish soup (Burma national dish). Know a Burmese colleague, a Burmese undergrad mate. Pray for peace in the country.
10 Nov : Read Alvin Roth (game theory prof who are more applicable).
10 Nov : Kyle MacDonald from Canada: the red paper clip story on creating value. trading until he ends up with a house.
2 Nov : I am sad: church attack in Baghdaq. God please give strength to the families of the victims and please forgive those sinners.

31 Oct : Heard about news of Taksim Square suicide bomb. Sad. Hope for peace to prevail on earth. We were at the Taksim Sq in August.
31 Oct : ESTA now costs $14 to apply. I am not going to US in the near future (at least in these 2 years), perhaps I will save $14.
31 Oct : Thanks God for letting me see US 3x in a consecutive three years. I am a grateful and lucky babe.
17 Oct : We miss our beautiful lunch together at Mykii, there will be other Mykii-alike in the future, must think +ve.
16 Oct : Faith = taking God’s promises and daring to believe them.
16 Oct : We must not trust only our feeling which can be changeable and may even be deceptive at times but rely instead on God’s promises
11 Oct : An example of scientific creativity is to use hand metaphor to describe the global structure of polymerase
11 Oct : For everything you have lost, you have gained something else. For everything you have gained, you have lost something else.
8 Oct : I want Dad and Darling to at least try the famous kopi luwak once in a lifetime. It is sold so expensive at 313.
1 Oct : Liver cancer, gastric cancer, esophageal cancer, Hepatitis B, affects ~10% Chinese but only a tiny number of people in the US (West).

30 Sep : Darling loves to listen to the singing of John Denver, a never-give-up guy.
7 Sep : Chinese proverb ‘No one who can rise before dawn 360 days a year fails to make his family rich’
7 Sep : Pls guide me to see SOMETHING UNUSUAL in my research. Think Tipping Point, Blink, Outlier.
6 Sep : CONFIDENCE must not always come after COMPETENCE. We can be confident 1st and persevere until we become competent.
6 Sep : Rich is in our heart. Darling from reading Bible.
5 Sep : Helping a friend of a mentor taking the SHL test. Reminds me on GRE. haha.
5 Sep : All things are made of atoms – Richard Feynman
2 Sep : Education is the movement from darkness to light. Allan Bloom.

30 Aug : Bosphorus: a narrow strait btw Black Sea and Marmara Sea. 12-19 million people.
30 Aug : Sunscreen & make-up cling to our skin. Need to exfoliate before we can absorb serum.
30 Aug : When applying make-up with fingers, use ring fingers -> avoid more wrinkles
30 Aug : He says that I got a Cameron Diaz-alike smile. Thanks!
30 Aug : ClaridenLeu says have the ambition to exceed expectations.
30 Aug : Finished washing Champion shoes, worn for skydiving. Thought of my frugal Mum and Grandma.
30 Aug : If opportunity does not knock at our door, we go knocking at it.
30 Aug : “The best way to have a good idea is to have a lot of ideas.” Linus Pauling
26 Aug : Thirsty of knowledge and competencies in science, education, art and innovation.
20 Aug : You can observe a lot by watching. Yogi Berra.
17 Aug : Warren Buffett 对诱惑很有免疫能力. Must learn from him!
16 Aug : Scientific success needs 4Gs (Geduld, Geschick, Gluck und Geld – Patience, Ability, Luck, and Money) – Paul Ehrlich
12 Aug : 平凡。稳重。 浩然之气。 学会放弃,懂得选择。
9 Aug : A good composition establishes a sense of HARMONY between light, lines, balance, framing, and timing.
9 Aug : Black and white are the colours of photography. Alternatives of HOPE and DESPAIR to which mankind is forever subjected. Robert Frank.
9 Aug : Happy moments, PRAISE GOD. Difficult moments, SEEK GOD. Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD. Painful moments, TRUST GOD. Every moment, THANK GOD.
6 Aug : 读万卷书,行万里路,圆万个梦。
6 Aug : 酸乐八极!
6 Aug : HSBC ads on a photographer childhood “To seek potential in everything”.
6 Aug : 钱再多也有花完的时候。有本事就走遍天下,不偷不抢,就靠本事。
5 Aug : Unicef UK Pakistan Flood Children. A gift of £30 could immunise more than 45 children against killer diseases.
5 Aug : All I have seen teaches me to trust the Creator for all I have not seen.
3 Aug : The Flickr free account can only accommodate 200 photos to be viewed. Do you know if there are any other similar stuff to Flickr?
1 Aug : How to save / download a video from youtube? Use firefox adds-on, right click to download the videos.
1 Aug : The priest asked: Do you use people for money or do you use money for people?
1 Aug : Bad apples are good apples that have become rotten, and we should not consider all apples bad after finding a few bad ones.
1 Aug : There is a place that you are to fill and no one else can fill, something you are to do, which no one else can do.

30 Jul : 一步難,一步佳。- Echoes Of the Rainbow (2010)
30 Jul : The early bird gets the biggest worm. Must wake up early, sleep early for body to recover!
30 Jul : You should start caring about yourself first before taking care of others.
30 Jul : Not that you are trying to be selfish, but rather, you are trying to protect yourself.
30 Jul : Too much commitments in life will not going to help you much either. Learn to let go some and focus on only few of them.
30 Jul : Do not let anyone make us feel doubtful / ashamed of our desire to be RICH.
30 Jul : At its deepest level, it is a desire for a FULLER, HAPPIER, MORE WONDERFUL life. It is a COSMIC URGE.
28 Jul : Your brain has two parts: the left & the right. Your left brain has nothing right, and your right brain has nothing left.
28 Jul : Let us make sure that ppl will remember us for the things tt we do rather than remembering us for not doing the things tt we are supposed to
28 Jul : Do not measure yourself by what you have accomplished, but what you should have accomplished with your ability. – John Wooden.
28 Jul : I race with a philosophy not to regret what I do, meaning, not to cross the finishing line and think I could have done better.
28 Jul : In the past, I wrote “I have very committed team members who are willing to attend meetings even past midnight.”
2 Jul : “The simplest questions are usually the hardest to answer” -Anonymous-
1 Jul : Love more, hate nothing, fear less
29 Jun : 知足长乐!
29 Jun : 害人之心不可有,防人之心不可无 Learn to listen. Think thrice before talking.
26 Jun : Asahi + Kirin + diamond plan + laughters made a boring Brazil vs Portugal match enjoyable.
26 Jun : Lesson from boss visa mess: (1) Rules do change, (2) never assume.
23 Jun : Part 2: And then I get together with my office and try to sell it. Film-maker John Waters.
23 Jun : From Monday to Friday, I get up at 6 am, read six or seven papers and then by 8, 23 Jun : I think of something weird.
23 Jun : I want to watch Ip Man: The legend is born.
23 Jun : “我也相信,人生不要太圓滿,有個缺口讓福氣流向別人是很美的一件事.”
23 Jun : A nightmare that my first uncle has passed away. Our death is guaranteed, but the timing is uncertain. To give the best in our living days.
23 Jun : IT tips of the day: To color our note in notepad++, save as vb file. Thanks Darling!
18 Jun : After stranded flights, sleep deprivation, and losing 6% of body weight, I feel so airy.
18 Jun : What are seen 2x in a moment but not a year? “M”
16 Jun : The ability to FOCUS and RE-FOCUS on positive stuff (images, memories) are very important.

29 May : We can use sake as a toner at night (use cotton ball). I love this song: All the Pretty Horses (Harp Lullaby)
27 May : My favorite travel guide books are by DK Eyewitness Travel
25 May : Why does Strasbourg Cathedral only has 1 tower?
25 May : I am grateful for today dinner: cereal prawn, yam with mushroom chicken, spinach, and Chinese herbal soup.
1 May : Happy Labour Day, I am inspired by octagenarians who still actively pursuit their career / job. Publicity to prevent ppl to retire, grinned
1 May : Both Hodgkins held academic appointments at Oxford, and they raised their three children there with the help of the Hodgkin grandparents.

29 Apr : When we photograph the same subject, depending on the angles we shoot, they may give different results, look beautiful or boring.
24 Apr : When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.
24 Apr : There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and others.
19 Apr : I am with you till the end of time” Mt 28:20
14 Apr: Seuss: I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living.
4 Apr : Spring flowers are popping up almost as fast as happy thoughts of you! Happy Easter!

23 Mar : Life is a curve with a lot of turning points, while smile is the only CURVE that made everything straight.
23 Mar : Time may be a good healer but a horrible beautician. Let us age beautifully, with love ❤
23 Mar : 1040 Christianity in the New Asia. It's not that kind of worship I favor, but I respect others approaches to worship.
23 Mar : 1040 Christianity in the New Asia. I just checked the trailer at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JkQVzkpJbF8.
14 Mar : I could not hide my excitement, I got my first new SLR yesterday. I made a juice of MAPS (milk + apple + papaya + strawberry) for Darling.
13 Mar : with people, I am resolved to share only good things. We adopt 2Fs: forgive and forget. Peace!
1 Mar: The priest adviced, "Desire no earthly stuff ($ and fame), but strive to make + commitments to the earth".

26 Feb : We can use toothpaste applied overnight on skin to ease our pimples!
21 Feb : For 30 years under the Borgias, they had warfare, terror, murder and bloodshed, but they produced Michelangelo, da Vinci and the Renaissance
21 Feb : Hainan property prices sky-rocket.
15 Feb : I had a beautiful sweet dream cruising and appreciating beautiful sceneries of the States from my wooden cabin window. Love !
12 Feb : We could fail not coz lack the opportunities to succeed; but are unwilling to do tiny things,or are not brave enough to take the first step.

2009
3 Aug : In 2005, I wrote that I don’t know what I want in life. It is still the same in 2009, though I know I want to be useful for others.
Every girl has a type. A man. A hairstyle. A dress.
24 Jul : I just found out today, Jonathan Brandis, the actor who play in my childhood favorite movie, seaquest, has died 😦
17 Jul : Today, I have a cookies-diet, not planning to eat anything, consequency of last night over-eating.
16 Jul : My fortune cookie from Szechuan restaurant: It is not the outside riches but the inside ones that produce happiness.
16 Jul : I am so lazy to exercise, yet I got to do once in a while, which is ‘sprint in order not to miss shuttle’.
18 Jun : AM, walked from home to the lab. Took me 45 min. Scarry part is to have cross highway entrance 2x. I’ll patiently wait for the shuttle bus.
12 Jun : 12-Jun-6am-plus: When I collected clothes, I saw a bunny, happy!
1 Jun : I woke up at 4.30 am on 1st June, to kick start working!

28 May : Dad and Mum think that I look beautiful in the photos I sent them last weekend, well my parents used to think that I am their ugly duckling
25 May : Bought a bit of groceries at Sainsbury, and I found Friji milkshake with Homer’s face, so I bought it as Darling likes The Simpsons.
25 May : I had a satisfying lunch of salmon and potatoes at King’s, then went to claim my free hot drink at Millies.
22 May : God gives us talents. Never underestimate anybody, based on his past & current. We will never know what one can do in the future.
21 May : The more literature review I read, the more confused I become.
21 May : Washing machines now hv more comp power than the Kendrew comp and synchrotrons offer X-rays a trillion times more brilliant than in Cam 50 yrs ago.
20 May : Darling said don’t strive for people acceptance, strive for God’s acceptance. I will remember that.
20 May : These days the sun is so bright that I have to squint my eyes.
19 May : My supervisor has not had a chance to look at the draft I slipped under the door last Fri. I got new ideas for this work as well.
17 May : Just come back from a walk with 傻喜, she is so excited.
16 May: Why 傻喜 loses a lot of fur? I hope she will not be botak.
11 May : Bought organic products from Arjuna on Mill Rd. More expensive than Sainsbury, but I support free trade by buying from Arjuna. Hurray!

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