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Do not worry if your child(ren) are stubborn / strong-willed. 10 tips to make a positive use of their strong will

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S shared with me an article from ahaparenting.

“Have a strong-willed child?
You’re lucky! Strong willed children can be a challenge to parent when they’re young, but if sensitively parented, they become terrific teens and young adults.
Self-motivated and inner-directed, they go after what they want and are almost impervious / unaffected to peer pressure. As long as parents resist the impulse to “break their will,” strong-willed kids often become leaders.”
It takes two to have a power struggle. You don’t have to attend every argument to which you’re invited!
If you can take a deep breath when your buttons get pushed, and remind yourself that you can let your child save face and still get what you want, you can learn to sidestep those power struggles.”
Blueroselady : S said this is also applicable to handle a big baby at her home.

It is important to know the difference between MORALITY / INTEGRITY & OBEDIENCE.
MORALITY / INTEGRITY is doing what’s right, no matter what you’re told.
OBEDIENCE is doing what you’re told, no matter what’s right.

1. Avoid power struggles by using ROUTINES and RULES.
2. Your strong-willed child wants MASTERY more than anything.
3. Give your strong-willed child CHOICES / alternatives.
4. Give her AUTHORITY over her own body.
5. Don’t push him into opposing you. Remember that : winning a battle with your child always sets you up to lose what’s most important: the relationship.
6. Side step power struggles by letting your child SAVE FACE.
7. LISTEN to her.
8. See it from his PERSPECTIVE.
9. Discipline through the relationship, never through punishment.
10. Offer him RESPECT and EMPATHY.

Blueroselady strives to treat her children as she wants to be treated (with respect, independence).

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Written by blueroselady

March 15, 2013 at 4:17 am

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