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Book: The Seven habits of Highly Effective People

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Author: Stephen Covey

PARADIGMS & PRINCIPLES

Pygmalion effect = self-fulfilling prophecies.
Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right – Henry Ford. p7.

Blueroselady 7Hs:
Healthy
Hopeful
Happy
Harmonious
Humble
Hardworking
Helpful

Your attitude determines your altitude.
Smiling wins more friends than frowning.
Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe it can achieve.

cultivated internal sources of security so that our own feelings of worth were not dependent on our children’s “acceptable” behavior. p8.

The term Paradigm Shift was introduced by Thomas Kuhn in his highly influential landmark book, The Structure of Scientific Revolutions.
Newtonian model was partial, incomplete!

Many people experience a similar fundamental shift in thinking when they face a life-threatening crisis and suddenly see their priorities in a different light, or when they suddenly step into a new role, such as that of husband or wife, parent or grandparent, manager or leader. p14.

once children gain a sense of real possession, they share very naturally, freely, and spontaneously. p19.

there are times to teach and times not to teach.

If you want to have a more pleasant, cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, empathic, CONSISTENT, loving parent.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. — Aristotl. p22.

a habit = the intersection of knowledge, skill, and desire.

INTERDEPENDENCE: we — we can do it: we can cooperate; we can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together. p23.

If I were emotionally dependent, my sense of worth and security would come from your opinion of me.

My sense of worth would not be a function of being liked or treated well. p24.

If I am emotionally interdependent, I derive a great sense of worth within myself, but I also recognize the need for love, for giving, and for receiving love from others.

If I am intellectually interdependent, I realize that I need the best thinking of other people to join with my own.

In our quest for short-term returns, or results, we often ruin a prized physical asset — a car, a computer, a washer or dryer, even our body or our environment.

Our most important financial asset is our own capacity to earn.

Blueroselady: LITTLE KINDNESS and COURTESIES are so important to a deep relationship. p26.

You can go for the golden egg of popularity, of pleasing your children, giving them their way all the time. Then they grow up without a personal commitment to being disciplined or responsible.

There are organizations that talk a lot about the customer and then completely neglect the people that deal with the customer — the employees. p28.
Blueroselady: When I set up my enterprise, I will treat my employees like my customers.

Blueroselady: In order to be a good learner, one has to be a good teacher. Share or discuss what you learn with someone else within 2 days after you learn it.

Define yourself from within, rather than by people’s opinions or by comparisons to others.

In the words of Thomas Paine, “That which we obtain too easily, we esteem too lightly. It is dearness only which gives everything its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper price on its goods.”

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Written by blueroselady

May 29, 2011 at 3:30 pm

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