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Tips: couple relationship

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# Determine the sharing of financial duties
# Be upfront about liabilities
# Ensure an adequate emergency fund
# Share your money upbringing and beliefs
# Share financial goals
# Regular communication and review

Reading zodiac compatibility for fun.
It is too simple to arrive at a conclusion merely using the zodiac, as we are highly complex systems.
Advice for the lady: Don’t get dragged into a battle of egos. Just smile and let them think they are right!

Well, I am not an expert but please me share what I learnt from others (Psychologist Meredith Fuller, relationship counsellor Eric Hudson, etc).
Hope that they are useful.

People often find a partner who is complementing: opposite in some ways, similar in others.
After 1 – 3 years, some couples find that those qualities that initially attracted them to their partners star annoying them instead.
Solution: must embrace each other’s opposite traits and love them again, like you once did.

Pay attention to what your partner is really saying.

Differences in personality are not necessarily a bad thing, it is about how you handle them.

5-year risk: take each other for granted.
Busy juggling work and children, partner becomes last priority.
Solution: Do not forget our manners. Treat our partner with the same respect and consideration we give others. A heartfelt compliment. A neck massage. A little kindness.
Make it a rule to ban name-calling, put-downs, bad language during conflicts.
In the long run, it is essential that you both make time for each other.
You may need to say NO to a social engagement, leave work at a decent time.

10-year risk: slowly disconnecting.
Do not believe that the grass is greener on the other side.

15-year risk: leaving the other behind.
Renewing a dream, learning new skills, doing some further study or traveling to exotic destinations can act like a vitamin shot for a long-term relationship.
Solution: plan things together. Reassure your partner that you are not going anywhere. You are just trying to bring some juice back into the relationship.
Note: Men tend to put a lot of their identity into their work, when this changes due to retirement or retrenchment, they can feel lost.


Written by blueroselady

February 14, 2011 at 4:08 pm

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  1. This is the information that we need to have good relationships!

    Soulmate James

    December 10, 2011 at 9:00 am

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